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Old 06-12-2013, 07:53 PM
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There's nothing wrong with being judgmental. You judge whether or not it is safe to cross the street, don't you?

If you're uncomfortable with her sexual practices, and the fact that she has HPV, then you're uncomfortable. No reason to judge yourself for that as well.

We don't have to put up with shit we don't like, or with feeling uncomfortable about someone else's choices, all for the sake of appearing non-judgmental and open-minded. Trust your instincts and don't second-guess yourself. Don't date her if you're squeamish.
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Old 06-12-2013, 08:50 PM
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Just some thoughts/opinions:

- It's easy to be afraid of the unknown. Read actual research on these viruses, preferably research not sponsored by drugs that treat these viruses etc. You may have to dig.

- Most HPV strands clear up. There is a vaccine available called Gaurdacil to protect against the ones that are potentially cancerous.

- Barriers are sexy, but we often have to retrain our brains to realize this.

- Risk behavior is even more important than STI status. Pay more attention to that.

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