Just for the record (I'm in a hurry and only skimmed, but got the gist of the HSV stuff), even if he did have it (not impossible), he could wear a condom and silk boxers for PIV with you and there'd be basically no chance at all of you getting it. The only reason that condoms aren't 100% effective in preventing HSV transmission is that other skin (upper thighs, balls) still comes into contact with yours. Not so if you cover it, and that's actually very easily done.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.