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Old 04-26-2013, 06:51 PM
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Him: Ive always wanted to be with an older women (sic)

Me: [ignore]

next day--

Him: Hello???

Me: Hi, what's up?

3 days later--

Him: Sooo u interested in a hookup?

Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

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Pixi (poly, F, 40) my darling nesting partner since January 2009
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Old 06-01-2013, 04:26 AM
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Recent favorites

Him:Nice Photoshoping
Me:What photoshopping exactly?
Him:In the second picture
Me:I didn't photoshop any of my pictures but nice assumption

Him: Do you have foot fetish

yeah that was it

Him:I have a smoking fetish, do you think that's weird?
again, ugh

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Old 06-07-2013, 05:29 AM
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Today a guy who is a 62% match wrote me two messages.

The first:
Take me im,all yours
The second, sent 4 minutes later:
Do you really the match stuff on here
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia

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Old 06-07-2013, 05:42 AM
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I just got a series of messages from a guy looking for "a discrete relationship outside [his] trainwreck marriage" and "a secret friend".

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Old 06-07-2013, 02:37 PM
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^ a secret friend outside his train wreck marriage? I have an idea why it's a train wreck...

Yesterday, after a while in between messages I got to talking with a guy and made it clear that I'm not looking for male sexual companions. He was cool with this and we were going to hang out as friends sometime. Then he started on this:

Him- oh, BTW, I've been hard since I started talking to you. How do you like to get fucked? I figure if we're friends then what's a little jerk age between friends?

Needless to say I didn't not message him back nor will I ever...

Yes, I guess that was a naive moment for me..
It's just me, my ramblings and the elevator music in my head.

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Me: bi, reformed wild-child turned mom and house maid LOL
Crux: straight/hypersexual, possibly mono?
BC: our son, 5 years
CM: second son 9 months.
Mouse: girlfriend! Status new, feelings not so much.
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Old 06-18-2013, 10:09 PM
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"Hi Im bobby Im looking for a real sweet girl"

From a guy with about a 30% match. And there's nothing on my profile to suggest I might in any way be sweet!
Single, straight, female, solo, non-monogamous.
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Old 06-18-2013, 11:06 PM
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I got this from a poly guy on Fetlife. His prefaced this with "I'm looking for friends."

"Not interested in the least I take it? Well that's too bad. I could've friended the shit out of you... Or something like that."

WFT? Out of curiosity, I checked out his profile and it said that he's poly and his girlfriend is having a hard time dealing with it, so while he assures people that she knows, he doesn't want them asking because they see that as "stirring up drama" or "trying to drive a wedge between them".
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Old 06-19-2013, 04:40 AM
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Dude sent me this one the other day ("Here's one for the okc conversations thread" was the subject)

(Note: he doesn't post here but frequently reads over my shoulder )

This is the 1st I have ever had any contact with this girl..10% match, 20% friend, 60% enemy -

She says: "So, basically your profile says that you're not leaving your girlfriend, but you're willing to cheat on her? That's a total asshole move."

I reply: "If you bothered to read, honey, before playing internet justice girl. We're Poly....google it..."
JaneQ(Me): poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (25+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (7+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, ex-FWBs to SLeW, friends with MrS
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

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The Journey of JaneQSmythe
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Old 06-19-2013, 05:48 AM
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What about saying you are poly means you are promiscuous? I had this one guy on okc say okay, well if you are poly prove it and let me be your boyfriend. I told him to back off and said that was highly offensive. (next twelve days, with 0 response from me btw):
How are you? What is your favorite color? How was your day? You seem nice, I would like to get to know you. You have pretty eyes. You have a kind face.....BLOCKED

I feel this is akin to someone finding out a friend of theirs for years is gay and saying "thats fine, so long as you don't hit on me".
LadySFI- me; Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".

C-Boyfriend - Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".

Courage isn't the absence of fear, but the judgement that something else is more important than fear. -Ambrose Redmoon
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Old 06-22-2013, 09:51 AM
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"hi... have u been a naughty wife lately?" from a guy who is 10% match and 96% enemy (but he hasn't answered any questions...shouldn't all the %'s be 0?) with the typical topless shot from the bathroom mirror.

FYI, I'm listed as married, not available, because I put looking for friends only (but actually I'm not really using okc any more, just keeping the account to play with questions and quizzes). I don't have any photos and my profile is almost empty. It amazes me that I still get messages once in a while.
Heteroromantic asexual female, sex-positive, childfree, relationship anarchist.
Married to G, and in a partially non-romantic, completely non-sexual and long-distance triad with A and L.

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