Hello I am new to this forum and I have a situation. I recently began a polyamorous relationship with my kids father and I have come to realize that I am not that "loved" or atleast it feels that way. He has had a relationship with these two girls for a total of 7 years and I have known him for 10. We have two kids together and until now I had the apartment we first moved into together about 9 years ago, before any of the two were in the picture. He would make me think tha I was always crazy and being a hypocrite to believe that he had something more with any of them. Turns out he has had more of a relationship with them then he has ever had with me. I feel now as if I am a third wheel. I was under the impression that this "all around" relationship would have worked out living together because he made it seem as if they saw me as a partner for them as well. Me, being bi, after awhile of researching polyamorous relationships and having had dealt with them for so long, thought that this could indeed WORK! Plus, that I would be able to rekindle our lost love and relationship. As of yet, I have had no experience of such. at first, it was nice, but now I see that they are so demading of his time and the time they expect from him to spend with them that I find it difficult to find time available for me. He says I need to show more initiative, but I don't like having to ask for my time or even having to do that in the first place! I am in a bad situation. My kids are happy because they have daddy and a bigger home where they have grown comfortabilty in and love. I love the home and the space and I really feel that I can make ths work for him and I but I don't know what to do. He said this would brng us together and it hasn't. I have given everything to him and I have set myself aside for the other girls and their needs but no one care about mine. I thought this relationship looked out for everyone involved?? They seem to do it for each other but not me. Maybe it is because thay have beend oing this together for longer than I have been involved (which is what HE made look like they didn't have LIKE THAT EVER). I mean sexually and everyhting! He says though that I am a different species than they are. That they are just a diiferent animal and that he is proud of how good I am doing so far. I don't know. I am so sad I just can't see how this is progress.
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