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Old 05-22-2013, 09:35 PM
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Very good points. I think it caught me so off guard because I have no issue explaining it to adults. I have several medical problems that would make carrying and caring for a child very difficult. Karma and I are both very worried about the genetic background of both families so that plays a role. And then there's the fact that we are hardly supporting ourselves and we want more for our kids. Not to mention that we both raised our younger siblings and while for me that didn't really change anything, for Karma, he never had a childhood so now he's living that out.

But for whatever reason, a simplistic answer just didn't come to mind. My usual quick response is that we like our time to be freely spent how we choose. Again not an answer for a child. I told her that if we had kids we wouldn't be able to come visit her as often as we do and that we like being able to spend time with her and her brother. She seemed satisfied with that.

I've never really had to defend my answer. My parents have always supported my choice and Karma's dad was a little upset by not having grandkids but he's slowly come around. Other than that I don't really defend my choice as much as use the question of why as an opportunity to educate.
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Old 05-22-2013, 09:46 PM
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But for whatever reason, a simplistic answer just didn't come to mind. My usual quick response is that we like our time to be freely spent how we choose. Again not an answer for a child. I told her that if we had kids we wouldn't be able to come visit her as often as we do and that we like being able to spend time with her and her brother. She seemed satisfied with that.
Oh, I think that was a great answer! You're so hard on yourself, but that sounds like it was a perfect response and I'm sure she was satisfied.
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Old 05-25-2013, 02:12 AM
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What an interesting phone call I just had. So while the kids were in town, as I mentioned earlier, my niece asked if Pixi lived in our garage. None of us could figure out where this came from. Tonight they were watching The Help for the second time and my niece said something about "See mommy they live in the garage." Apparently she thinks Pixi is our maid and has to live in the garage. The thought of Pixi being our maid caused to laugh hysterically. Out of the mouth of babes! So after discussing time frames and social situations with her daughter, my sis in law called to tell me.

She's come to the conclusion that with the move and Pixi inevitably spending more time with the family, we're going to have to talk with the little one. They are all for being honest with her and we are all researching the ways to explain it. But this also means I have to have the sit down with my mom, because whatever the little one knows, YaYa will know soon. Not so worried about it, just want to have it in person. I'm more worried about my dad.

But yeah, Pixi lives in our garage because she is our maid and this has now catapulted the idea of coming out to the rest of the family. Interesting times ahead.
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