Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > General Poly Discussions

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #11  
Old 05-19-2013, 12:41 PM
Malfunktions's Avatar
Malfunktions Malfunktions is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: NB, Canada
Posts: 203
Default

I may be odd here but I love the sounds of sex. It's just does it for me. Watching porn is distracting when with a partner but having it on In the background, hearing the sounds is helpful lol. So if SO was to be givin it to another girl and I heard it then I don't think I'd be all that offended.

To be curt.
__________________
It's just me, my ramblings and the elevator music in my head.

OKC Profile

Me: bi, reformed wild-child turned mom and house maid LOL
Crux: straight/hypersexual, possibly mono?
BC: our son, 5 years
CM: second son 9 months.
Mouse: girlfriend! Status new, feelings not so much.
Reply With Quote
  #12  
Old 05-19-2013, 12:51 PM
JustUs JustUs is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Virginia
Posts: 71
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Malfunktions View Post
I may be odd here but I love the sounds of sex. It's just does it for me. Watching porn is distracting when with a partner but having it on In the background, hearing the sounds is helpful lol. So if SO was to be givin it to another girl and I heard it then I don't think I'd be all that offended.

To be curt.
Nope, its not just you! Hearing them, either if I am in the room or down the hall does it for me a lot also....Not much into porn, especially in the background...but real life...is all good!
Reply With Quote
  #13  
Old 05-19-2013, 02:08 PM
Magdlyn's Avatar
Magdlyn Magdlyn is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Metro West Massachusetts
Posts: 3,620
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by JustUs View Post
Thanks to everyone for the great responses. It's nice to know other's get the same satisfaction from hearing about their partners experiences and such. I do know it is not for everyone as a lot of people follow the DADT rule, which is great if it works for them.
I wonder how many poly people do not want their partners to tell their other partner about their sex, and how many don't care? Personally I've never had a lover mind me telling another about what we do. In fact, most seem to get turned on by hearing about the other, or knowing I've described some things, to the other. My 2 lovers just want me to be happy, and they know nothing cheers up Mags like a good sex session!
__________________
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 05-23-2013, 08:13 PM
LadySFI LadySFI is offline
Member
 
Join Date: May 2013
Location: United States
Posts: 49
Default

When my bf and I first started hooking up, the SO wanted every single detail. It was REALLY awkward, but it is what he needed to make himself okay, so I obliged. Now that he knows that I am willing to not hide things if he needs them for his personal comfort, he doesn't really ask me anything at all.

Last weekend we were all together for the first time. I looked up and saw the SO's face and he looked really pleased. He was just watching. That threw me off a little for a minute or two, but he did seem to truly enjoy it.

In my case, unless I am actually involved with him and a gf, I don't want details. At all. Doesn't mean I mind him doing it, just means that is not what I need on his side of our relationship. We have our ground rules regarding safety (for my body as much as for his) and I trust that he will follow them.
__________________
LadySFI- me; Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".

C-Boyfriend - Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".

Courage isn't the absence of fear, but the judgement that something else is more important than fear. -Ambrose Redmoon

Last edited by LadySFI; 05-23-2013 at 08:15 PM.
Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 05-27-2013, 06:05 PM
JustUs JustUs is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Virginia
Posts: 71
Default

I can understand telling your SO the details of your sex with your boyfriend, especially if its not something you are accustomed to doing lol...Before we were poly, my wife would tell me stories of guys she had been with before she was with me, and found it interesting I was turned on hearing about all the details...and it just went from there.

So, her boyfriend is coming at the end of the week to visit for 3 weeks. As always, should be a fun and interesting time. I am sure she will have a few stories to tell, as I will be at work during the day. Maybe if I am lucky at some point, I will be in the house when they are together and be able to hear them together.

Nice thing is, he and I get along very well. So when we are all 3 together (non sexually) we have a good time cooking/grilling, having a few drinks and just relaxing together.
__________________
The characters in another chapter we call life!
T - Wife - hinge in Poly V
J - Husband Poly
F - T's Boyfriend Poly (good friend of J's)
Reply With Quote
  #16  
Old 05-27-2013, 07:04 PM
sterling119 sterling119 is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Grand Blanc Michigan
Posts: 51
Default not taboo

Wife and I are in a v with her being the hinge and yes I like to hear about what they do, If I am there when they are together I love to listen to them playing as she is very vocal. To know that she is getting pleasure is a huge turn on for me. I have gotten a peek from time to time, most accidental. The best was when I walked in on them in the middle of pleasuring each other because I didn't know they were even in the house. They both looked so happy and into it it was quite a sight to see and we all had a good laugh about it later. We do not so far have threesomes although I of course would not mind at all and neither would my wife so maybe someday. I do not thing this is a taboo subject and we look at it as normal in our poly relationship. We know he hears us together as well and that is a turn on for all of us. I would say enjoy, don't worry about what others may think and make your way through life any way the 3 of you want....
Reply With Quote
  #17  
Old 05-29-2013, 05:41 PM
oneofmany oneofmany is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 23
Default

I am the hinge in mfm v. We all live together and share a bed. It is not unusual for us to all be together for sex although my bf and husband are not sexually interactive. We also try to include some one on one time - this usually solves itself with the varying work schedules. Both M and Blue prefer for us all to be together but I do require a little one on one time.
Reply With Quote
  #18  
Old 06-03-2013, 08:15 PM
Lilla Lilla is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 5
Wink

I'm the hinge of an M/F/M vee. TG doesn't mind hearing details or if we're telling him stories, and I don't think hearing a bit of floorboard squeak if me and L are enjoying some alone time bothers him. But I highly doubt he gets off on it.

L has a slightly stronger kink for it. Just showed him this thread, and he says he finds the energy a bit of a turn on.

We also tend to play off energy as a group, even though we would never have a threesome/do stuff with one while other watches. By playing on energy I mean like this weekend we've had a few days to hang out, cook together and play games/watch films. And L/TG both like winding me up, both alone, and in front of the other. Through light teasing/suggestiveness/etc...

Which I admit...is a turn on (and glad I'm allowed to sneak off with each one for a while when required)...
Reply With Quote
  #19  
Old 06-06-2013, 06:17 PM
Nox Nox is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: Texas
Posts: 210
Default

Neither my wife or gf want to hear details, but they do like reading about fantasies I write about the other.

I, on the other hand, can't ever get enough details. I got to see some pictures of an encounter once. So exciting!
__________________
Me: 40 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 18 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 3 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend
Reply With Quote
  #20  
Old 06-08-2013, 01:00 PM
SEcondary SEcondary is offline
Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Posts: 50
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by JustUs View Post
Thanks to everyone for the great responses. It's nice to know other's get the same satisfaction from hearing about their partners experiences and such. I do know it is not for everyone as a lot of people follow the DADT rule, which is great if it works for them. Nice thing is, everyone's relationships are different, but always good to hear what works for others.
Also, this is the nice thing about this website and the members, most everyone is open minded and not judgemental, which makes posting questions and such much easier knowing it is a great group of people on here to give there insight and experiences.
My wife and I love it this way. Since she has had sex with someone bigger than me she found out I'm not big enough for her. She now has a well hung lover. We always have sex right after he leaves, She shares her sex with me. Just brings us closer and gets me real horny.
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 12:08 AM.