Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Poly Relationships Corner

Notices

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 05-10-2013, 12:56 AM
alanred alanred is offline
Member
 
Join Date: May 2013
Posts: 11
Default Advise on our new relationship

My wife and I have been together for 5 years. My wife (A) has been bi curious all of her life. We recently had a discussion about getting a girlfriend. We have been talking to a girl (M) for some time now. We where upfront about our intentions with her (we where looking for a sexual relationship). M wanted to get to know us first and we where ok with that. Now things are getting serious. My wife and M are falling in love. The relationship with M and myself is moving more slowly but strong felling are developing between us. We all have talked about our expectations and are just going with the flow of things for now. We are all happy with how things are going.

Where I need advise is, things are to be turning into a relationship. We live in a small town and we are concerned about how are children (3 &4) would be treated. Also we think M and A's family would be accepting of our relationship. I am not so sure about my family. My family had a hard time when my wife and I first got together as she is black and I an white. Most of my family would not even speak to me for a few years. I have a cousin that is dating a guy that is black now and is scared to death to tell our family.

When asked about our relationship we just kinda change the subject and have not openly told anyone yet.
Reply With Quote
  #2  
Old 05-12-2013, 01:30 AM
Marcus's Avatar
Marcus Marcus is offline
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Richardson, TX
Posts: 1,308
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by alanred View Post
Most of my family would not even speak to me for a few years. I have a cousin that is dating a guy that is black now and is scared to death to tell our family.

When asked about our relationship we just kinda change the subject and have not openly told anyone yet.
Are the opinions of these openly bigoted jerks important to you? If so, it sounds like you either need to keep your dirty secrets from them or get ready to be outcast by them (again).

Personally I don't associate with people who would judge me negatively because of who I date. If someone decides they want to think poorly of me because of my love life, they can pour themselves a nice tall frosty glass of Go Fuck Yourself and chug it.
__________________
Independent (Anarchist) Non-Monogamy

Me: male, 40, straight, single
Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT. The time now is 05:50 AM.