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Old 05-10-2013, 06:11 PM
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Having three partners compared to one or two partners is a bit like having three kids instead of one or two: the more you have them, the more joy you get, but you'll also need to work three times as hard.

I try not to complain too much because obviously I'm really enjoying myself and I really really like these people and want to be with them.. but man, I'm exhausted. I also have a hobby that at the moment is taking a lot out of me as well, and a full-time job, so there's a lot going on. Hank told me the other day that he doesn't feel like the third at all. He thinks I'm giving 100% to everyone and showing that there's no hierarchy. I loved hearing that. I'm a bit on/off with romantic relationships. If I get into one, I can't really enjoy it if I'm not fully in it, communicating often and so on. But doing that with three people is not always easy.

Rory and I were talking about my polysaturation recently and we both feel like our relationship has suffered a little bit because of these new relationships and my NRE. The good thing is that we're stable enough to work through it and there's definitely not a huge problem here. It was the same when rory worked and studied at the same time, she was just too tired to give it her all all the time. I think I just need to get through the beginning phases of these relationships and hopefully then I'll be able to focus on me and rory better. She says that I'm clearly doing all that I can in this situation and using my best judgement, so the NRE isn't blinding me completely. It's just draining. But we'll get through this, I have absolutely no worries about that.
Me: bi woman in my 30's
Dating Olivia and Marco, FWB with Noel
Living with Dahlia and Eddie (friends)

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