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Old 05-04-2013, 01:34 PM
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So when we are with another girl, we aren't sharing HER, we are sharing the EXPERIENCE of being with her. We are doing some thing together that we have a common interest in.

In some ways, it's like two people playing golf together, or singing together, or underwater basket weaving together, or whatever else they have in common. I realize that's an overly simplistic view, considering we're talking about a person, but I hope that gets the idea across.
Pardon me for separating the word something into some thing, but can you see how someone might wonder, from your own words, if Hypothetical Woman is really a woman,, an actual person to you, or just a living, breathing sex toy. By your words up here, she's not even a 'her' anymore, she's now been reduced to an 'experience.'

You and your girlfriend like to play golf, so you go out and get yourselves some golf clubs and have a great experience together and put them in the closet, where they won't get in your way, when you're done with them. But you'd like them there all the time, whenever you want to go golfing again, so you don't have to keep looking for a new set of clubs every third or fourth time you want to golf.

You want threesomes so you go shopping for a hot bi babe and have a great experience together and stick her in a closet where she won't get in your way, when you're done with her? But you'd like her there all the time, whenever you want a hot threesome again, so you don't have to keep looking for a new hot bi babe every third or fourth time you want a hot threesome.

I got the feeling you intended to somehow clarify your intentions, thus proving BG's sarcasm misplaced, unnecessary, and out of line? If so, all you did for me was strengthen the call for exactly that sort of sarcastic response. What you're describing does not sound to me like a genuine relationship. Unless you feel you have genuine relationships with your golf clubs? Maybe you do.

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And I think it is this shared experience that always makes my GF and I feel so good about our relationship after a threesome.
Okay, yes, exactly. What BG was trying to point out. What I obviously too subtly pointed out. It's all about you and your girlfriend. No concept here of you and Hypothetical Woman having a wonderful shared experience with the current GF. Or HW and GF having an amazing shared experience. No, it's all about you and GF--need I stress that again, you and GF--having experiences together. As I read your posts, this HW is just a nameless, faceless body who exists to give you and your GF this amazing experience.
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