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Old 04-30-2013, 03:57 PM
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nancyfore nancyfore is offline
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I realize that the daughter is 17, and will be out soon. But there are times when a child doesn't get to get out at 18. Is the new bf wanting to raise a child for a year? Would leaving her with her dad be an option if he has threatened violence? Is any of this really a good thing for her to be seeing? I know marriages break up, and when there are children involved still living in the house and a minor there are other things to think of.

Knowing your marriage is over, and wanting the freedom to go on with boyfriend,you and your daughter having an apartment and getting her thru the next year, might be an option. Then you have the freedom to do anything you wish. The boyfriend would certainly understand (or should) that you could date until the daughter was out, then move in together if you and him are still in a relationship.
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Old 06-17-2013, 09:57 PM
westVan westVan is offline
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I have a different prospective on this, or maybe not.
I was taught at a young age never leave one relationship for another.
the only person you should ever end a relastionship for is YOU.

After being with someone for 20+ years, you need time to get to know you again. You need to get an apartment for yourself and figure out what you want in life. Sign a 1 year lease on some little place you can decorate the way you want, not the way you thought you wanted in your marriage.
The world is your oster right now, discover all the things about yourself that you never knew.

It's just one year, you can still see BF as much as you want and hey maybe become really good friends with hubby again.

IMO if you just go from one relationship to another without taking time for you. It wil end badly and everyone will be hurt, mostly you...
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