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Old 04-12-2013, 06:39 AM
allhis77 allhis77 is offline
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Me and my fiance have been together for 3yrs. When we 1st got together we decided to share something we both had always wanted but could never find ourselves voicing before. I told my fiance i always wanted to explore being submissive. He agreed we could try this. He shared he had always wanted to have a wife and a 2 nd woman in our relationship that would be a part of both of us. I said that i was open to trying this. That it was something i had briefly fantasied about before. So in the 1st yr of our relationship we mainly talked about about how we envisioned this relationship developing and working. During the 2nd yr we attempted our 1st foray into it. He introduced me to a woman he knew from growing up but that he had not seen in yrs and had never had a relationship with. Our roles were clear. I was his "wife" and she "belonged" to us as a girlfriend. It lasted a few months and we discussed the things that we enjoyed about it and what we didnt. He shared he was looking for a deeper relationship. That his vision saw the 3 of us in a loving relationship with us all living together and me and her loving each other as well as loving him. So he found someone and built a relationship with her with her first and then once feelings were developed he informed her of our relationship and that he wanted her to be a part of us. He now understands his mistake but ultimately she is now in agreement in joining us and not just him. As we are starting this journey my feelings are all over the place. This has more elements he has always said he wanted a more loving unified relationship. He wants us both to be considered "wives" and the love is there between them and he now is wanting it to be built between the two of us. We are both in agreement we are attracted to each other and can see it building . I guess though whereas im open and excited to see where this leads i also find myself questioning fantasy vs reality and how my feelings at times are all over the place at no longer being THE wife but now sharing that role. I think this is a normal reaction and that only being one month into this that we are advancing well. Our husband is trying really hard to get us comfortable with each other and getting us comfortable watching him intereact with each of us in front of the other . Not gonna lie seeing him with another woman that there were no strong feelings involved was much easier and sexy....knowing there are deep feelings involved on both sides im having a slight struggle with. He tells me as "head" wife it is my job to make her comfortable becoming part of us and that 90% of time i do this but 10% he could read my struggle and he wants to know how to ease my fears. I am excited to see this evolve but scared at the same time. Guess just needed a place to discuss this new journey . Any suggestions welcome.
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