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Old 04-06-2013, 12:27 AM
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We still haven't found a house. My lease is up May 5 and if we don't get something soon, I can either go month to month in my apt, or leave, have all my stuff moved to Ginger's barn, and move in with miss pixi. So stressful.

We have 3 applications going now. One for a house we haven't even toured yet, just saw pictures! Seeing it tomorrow.

I did make a new friend though, getting back to the topic of polyamory. About one month ago, this super cute, just my type guy viewed my okc profile. A day or so later, I PMed him very casually and friendly-like. He wrote right back, and then we exchanged emails and have been PMing. I'll call him Blondie. He's 29, just my height (5'7"), long streaky blond hair and a close trimmed ginger beard, slim, huge blue eyes. sigh...

He is very nice, well spoken, he can spell, he's smart and gentle seeming. However, he has a sort of gf who is telling him she's poly, but I think she's really just fucking around, and he's feeling quite hurt. I offered a shoulder, and my own poly experience. He's shy, introverted, she's only his 3rd gf. He had 2 others for years each and some periods of being single. Not a playah.

After several emails he asked me to meet him. I suggested the beautiful Mt Auburn Cemetery in Cambridge, as he seems to be a nature lover and the day we picked (Easter) was warm. Well, it was a fun date, conversation flowed very easily. I guess he just wants a friend, at least for now, as he's all fussed and hurt about this girl. Well, OK, I'm househunting and totally stressed. Not really in a position to start up with a new bf right now.

But DAMN, he's cute and nice! When I showed miss pixi his photos on okc, she was all, "Ooh, he's pretty! Can we keep him?"

I emailed him yesterday to say I'd had fun and he wrote back today saying he had a wonderful time.
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Old 04-06-2013, 12:54 PM
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when i showed miss pixi his photos on okc, she was all, "ooh, he's pretty! Can we keep him?"
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Old 04-10-2013, 04:01 PM
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Hey Mags, how is the house-hunting going? I hope you find the perfect place to call home! Been thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.
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Old 04-10-2013, 05:09 PM
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I hope the house hunt is going well. How did the house tour go? The perfect home for you will reveal itself in due time, and it will hit you like, "This is the one!" I am so rooting for you and this house hunt!

Miss Pixi's response to the new guy is too awesome for words. I would say something like that.
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Old 04-10-2013, 10:49 PM
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Hey Mags, how is the house-hunting going? I hope you find the perfect place to call home! Been thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way.
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I hope the house hunt is going well. How did the house tour go? The perfect home for you will reveal itself in due time, and it will hit you like, "This is the one!" I am so rooting for you and this house hunt!
Well, we loved the last house we toured. It was a small older ranch but all fixed up inside, granite counters and stainless appliances in the kitchen, nice stylish paint on the walls, refinished bathroom and half bath, nicely refinished basement.

It was in a nice neighborhood, but it is in northwest Worcester, meaning it is about a half hour to Ginger's house, and an hour and a half to Boston, by car or train.

We met and chatted with the owner and listing agent for a house we'd seen a few days previously that's only 7 miles from Ginger. 15 minutes! (He now drives 35-40 mins to get to my current place.) It's also a ranch, but this time, not modernized. But it backs onto hundreds of acres of conservation land, which is woods, marshes and a huge lake/reservoir, hiking trails. It has a cute yard, all the space we need inside, fireplace, refinished basement family room, 1 full bath and 2 half baths, sunny kitchen... We liked the owner and she liked us. It was her mother's place, awwww. She actually lives in Ginger's town and had noticed him at town meetings. She said we can do all the gardening we like. The listing agent is supposed to be writing up the lease as of last night, but I've been waiting all day and have heard nothing from her. Arrgghh!

miss pixi doesn't like this place quite as much as me, as it is more suburban and she doesn't drive and would be more dependent on me. But she does like it a lot and will sign the lease if we ever freekin get it! We took a drive all over that area last week. It's so cutesy/country New Englandy. I really like it and I think miss p will too once she gets used to it. She's been in Boston 9 years, but grew up in rural NY State.

I am so incredibly stressed out, and now I've finally gotten the cold Ginger and miss p have had.

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Miss Pixi's response to the new guy is too awesome for words. I would say something like that.
I PMed Blondie last Saturday to ask him to come down and have that beer with me the next day. But he said he was too depressed about how things are with his sort of gf, and didn't want to go out. I expressed my sympathies and am leaving him alone. Maybe once I get to sign a lease and get some energy back when the cold gets better, I'll message him again.
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Well, I hope it all works out. Funny, how a half-hour commute anywhere is pretty routine for me in the city, yet seems long to you. However, I'm not driving!
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Old 04-10-2013, 11:11 PM
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Well, I know. I mean, many people commute an hour each way for work, every day!

I've been driving to Boston every week for over 4 years. And Ginger has been driving to me for 15 months. I only get to see him once a week. Now, if (when!) we are much closer, he can pop over more often. Til now, we have had to have a week's worth of sex in 24 hours. Now maybe we can shag twice on Monday, twice on Thursday and once on Saturday! hehe. Spread it out a little and not get sore backs.
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Til now, we have had to have a week's worth of sex in 24 hours. Now maybe we can shag twice on Monday, twice on Thursday and once on Saturday! hehe. Spread it out a little and not get sore backs.
Ahh, yes, gotta think of the practical side of things!
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First, I hope you feel better. Colds are running rampant this time of year. All bad.

15 minutes away from Ginger? Hello! I do believe that is a winner. Aww. It belonged to her mother? I am such a sap for things like that. That would have been my point of happiness right there. It sounds so cozy, and I have a nice visual. Fireplace, wine (makings of a romantic evening), and gardening? I would have been good with those things. The good news is Miss Pixi does not hate it. She likes it a lot, so that is something you can work with. I might be a really good thing that is is not modernised. That could be a project for everyone to be involved in. Making a house into a home. Now, all you need is the lease. Sending positive vibes your way and something to spark a flame under the agent's bum!

I hope everything works out for Blondie. Focus on getting your energy back, relaxing, signing the lease, and breaking the new home in. A sore back will be worth it when it is all said and done.
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Old 04-18-2013, 02:41 PM
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Thanks for your well wishes, ladies. Things seem to be all set, AOK, ducks in a row, for our new house! We have received and tweaked the lease, signed it, signed a lead information form (pre 70s house, a legal requirement), and the owner will be signing today! Then we just have to do a little damage inspection walk through and hand over a check, and move in!

Whew, I have had such sustained stress for the past 6 weeks or so. We lost out on like 3 houses before we finally nailed this one down. I am sure my immune system was repressed from all the stress hormones. I never really got a cold... just a tiny bit of congestion, daily fevers, headaches, and then my back went out. So I was down for about a week.

As of yesterday my back felt better. I was at miss p's place for a few days and she took good care of me, made me laugh, made me cum, cooked me delicious foods. She came back with me to Lowell yesterday afternoon and Ginger met us here. He brought me 2 dozen boxes and lots of newspaper and even styrofoam peanuts he'd had stored! Gods bless Ginger! Then of course, he gave me lots of boy sex. Mmmmm.... Now I am purring.

I need my strength to pack and move. My burly 21 year old son is coming to spend the weekend and we will tackle my rather large collection of vintage Pyrex. I've got time though, my lease isnt up til May 5.

Things will be different polywise after the move-- living with my gf full time and being so much closer to Ginger will change our dynamic all around. I am looking forward to it!
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