how do i tell my husband im not happy with poly anymore
Hi there. I have no one to talk about this stuff with and feeling very alone just looking for advice. My husband and I have been together for 3 years. Were very happy together and you won't meet another couple who's as crazy about each other as we are. We've been poly since we've been together. It's only ever been with girls and there's never been emotion attached or any dating of the other girls. I've asked for a threesome with a guy and he says he's up for it but it never goes farther then that for some reason. I think he honestly doesn't want that to happen. Not a big deal because lately I've been pretty done with the hookups myself. I don't enjoy them. They actually are starting to make me depressed. I don't feel good about myself anymore (ie I feel ugly, not needed, the only person there not having fun). I'm afraid my husband will be angry if I tell him I don't want to do this stuff anymore. Whenever we set up a date and I tell him I'm not feeling it and want to cancel it usually ends up in a fight or him just pissed off that we wasted our time talking and getting to know someone only to have me cancel. I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. It severly depresses me to see him talking to other girls in hopes of a threesome and now he wants to find a regular girl for us. Which I told him numerous times I don't want. I feel so insecure and alone on this and im hoping someone can offer some good advice on what I should do. I'm also afraid that if I finally tell him and we stop that hell still keep talking to girls and eventually start straying from the relationship. He's very against cheating and I believe he thinks the threesomes are a way of avoiding the temptation to cheat so if we take away the threesomes I'm afraid of what will happen. I love my husband and I want to keep him happy but I would also like to be happy and get these knots in my stomach to go away.
Ps. There are times when I'm up for the threesomes but its rare now. Do any other girls feel this way? One week they're ok with being poly or swingers whatever title you give it and then the rest of the time it just makes you sick? It's really annoying.