I agree with the others: This doesn't sound like a good relationship for you to stay in. Run, run, run. But, I respect that it's your decision, and as such I'll talk a little bit about what it would mean for you to stay.
One option would be to stay with G only, as H has an abortion and moves on. G would be furious with with you about that, and it's anyone's guess how long he'd hold that against you as a grudge. There's also the question of what new partners he'd pick up in the future, rinse and repeat and start the whole trying-to-get-pregnant-with-her-too process over again.
Another option is to just cave on what G and H want, and accept that G and H are going to have a baby (on the heels of the baby that you're already going to have). If you accept this, what do G and H offer to help make this a reasonable/sane scenario (and one that's fair to the kids)? Is H willing to become a stay-at-home mom, to help take care of her own baby, and to pitch in on helping to take care of all the kids in general? Does G (as nycindie pointed out) have a plan for securing the kind of work that would financially support all these kids?
The final option would be to make no demands and no requests of G and H, and to just do what they are asking you to do, to stay and to accept whatever (if anything) they have in mind. So, if they simply want to stick you with the care of an extra baby, you would accept that without complaint. Heck, if they wanted to have one baby after another, you'd accept that too and take care of all the babies, without their help or with some tokenary help (such as G being good at playing with the kids -- when he's home). As for financial support, you would simply be hoping that they would provide that, and find creative ways to make ends meet if you can. (How would you manage the logistics of shopping with all those kids in tow?)
The life you live will be your life, and should be based on your decisions. So I think it's okay to give these various scenarios consideration. Don't decide to reject them unless/until you're sure that's what you want. Yes, breaking up would/will come with considerable hardships of its own, which in turn will also affect the children. So be sure about what you want to do before you do it.
As I said before, I don't even object to G and H having a kid per se; I just think they need to wait awhile before having one, so that conditions will exist for the new baby to arrive that are sane, fair, and reasonable, for all of you including for the new baby and the other kids.
I realize you are also struggling with their want to have daily sex even at bad times for you, and that you'd like them to lessen how often they have sex in general, regardless of the pregnancy issues. That's something else you'd have to work out with them if you decide to stay, assuming you don't choose to simply accept what they want without revision.
When you say that G loves you, I assume there are things he does that seem loving, but I hope you can see how, to us on this site, it seems like he's not acting very loving. Hon, I hate to see you treated badly. You have been very patient and kind. It's not unreasonable for you to have your own boundaries.
One option would be to stay with G only, as H has an abortion and moves on. G would be furious with with you about that, and it's anyone's guess how long he'd hold that against you as a grudge. There's also the question of what new partners he'd pick up in the future, rinse and repeat and start the whole trying-to-get-pregnant-with-her-too process over again.
Another option is to just cave on what G and H want, and accept that G and H are going to have a baby (on the heels of the baby that you're already going to have). If you accept this, what do G and H offer to help make this a reasonable/sane scenario (and one that's fair to the kids)? Is H willing to become a stay-at-home mom, to help take care of her own baby, and to pitch in on helping to take care of all the kids in general? Does G (as nycindie pointed out) have a plan for securing the kind of work that would financially support all these kids?
The final option would be to make no demands and no requests of G and H, and to just do what they are asking you to do, to stay and to accept whatever (if anything) they have in mind. So, if they simply want to stick you with the care of an extra baby, you would accept that without complaint. Heck, if they wanted to have one baby after another, you'd accept that too and take care of all the babies, without their help or with some tokenary help (such as G being good at playing with the kids -- when he's home). As for financial support, you would simply be hoping that they would provide that, and find creative ways to make ends meet if you can. (How would you manage the logistics of shopping with all those kids in tow?)
The life you live will be your life, and should be based on your decisions. So I think it's okay to give these various scenarios consideration. Don't decide to reject them unless/until you're sure that's what you want. Yes, breaking up would/will come with considerable hardships of its own, which in turn will also affect the children. So be sure about what you want to do before you do it.
As I said before, I don't even object to G and H having a kid per se; I just think they need to wait awhile before having one, so that conditions will exist for the new baby to arrive that are sane, fair, and reasonable, for all of you including for the new baby and the other kids.
I realize you are also struggling with their want to have daily sex even at bad times for you, and that you'd like them to lessen how often they have sex in general, regardless of the pregnancy issues. That's something else you'd have to work out with them if you decide to stay, assuming you don't choose to simply accept what they want without revision.
When you say that G loves you, I assume there are things he does that seem loving, but I hope you can see how, to us on this site, it seems like he's not acting very loving. Hon, I hate to see you treated badly. You have been very patient and kind. It's not unreasonable for you to have your own boundaries.