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Old 03-15-2013, 07:56 PM
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Thank you for your well wishes as well as your realistic insight to the matter. I do hope this is now a new elaf we have turned and that everything will be okay. Im very much in to astrology and Im constantly connecting her emotions with her zodiac sign and how we can all connect in an emotional, physical, and spiritual sense. There are some traits or characteristics that i do see that are just her characteristics thats just who she is but maybe who she is is someone who isnt compatible with me, with that being said so far so good dont want to jynx it all.
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Old 03-15-2013, 08:03 PM
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I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, and send some good ju-ju your way. It may very well be that you'll always have to put up with some difficult behavior. The key is just to get it down to manageable levels.

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Old 03-16-2013, 07:38 PM
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Yes I will come to a point in telling her as well as seeing if the cut off line is also a must. So far no arguing more acceptance from her part and also more love from her part I woke up this morning to her sweet embrace, it was an amazing feeling to know that now both my partners are syncing into this relationship, if all goes well I can see this happening for a while. Thank you all for your support and advise I will report shortly on how this positive road is heading!! Xoxoxo
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Old 03-16-2013, 08:07 PM
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That sounds great; keep us posted as things are moving along.
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Old 03-18-2013, 02:15 PM
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Thank you so much everyone, its been great the past few days. No fighting alot of communication, and alot of intimacy. I am well beyond pleased at how this is unraveling. I know this could go sour at any moment but I dont want to ruin this positivity in my life. The bills are managing properly, we are all syncing with our work schedules and its just a great feeling all around. I hope this can last and i hope this isnt her just testing the waters, even though my intuition is giving me that just be cautious scowl. Thank you all will keep posted. Till then, I hope and wish you all the best in your relationships as well. From one lost open soul to another enjoy your week everyone!! XOXOXO
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Old 03-22-2013, 07:30 PM
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i have just found out that a few days ago my girlfriend told my boyfriend that she didnt want him having relations alone with me, yet she does in fact have relations with him alone, she doesnt with me because i know shes not comfortable, she doesnt ever want to have relations with us both becuase i know thats not what she wants. so i finally came to the decision today that this isnt going to work out for me, i can not be with someone that selfish, she will never change even if she says she has it will always be a problem, unfortunately this means i have also lost the initial love of my life my boyfriend. but i guess thats the price i pay and maybe its what i need, no more drama no more jealousy, no more feeling neglected because she feels her needs arent being met. thank you guys all for your love and support, although i like this site i might not return again due to thinkin that a trinogamous relationship might not work out for me again in the future, even though the thought of it would be pleasant.
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Old 03-22-2013, 07:45 PM
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So sorry to hear that things aren't working out, but I can see what you mean when you say your girlfriend's demands have just gotten to be too much.

I certainly respect your choice to visit or not visit Polyamory.com, but I hope you will still visit us and say hello. Even if you aren't in a poly situation and even if you don't plan to be in one, you're still welcome here in my opinion.

Whatever lies in store for you in the future, I hope it is peaceful and fulfilling, a welcome break from the drama that you have endured.

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Old 03-22-2013, 07:47 PM
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Thank you so much, i am truly grateful for all your kind words, i am very fragile right now for it was today that i made the decision, but maybe i will finally breath easy knowing i wont have to be the stepping stool to anyone any longer.i will visit most definitely you all have been nothing but kind and helpful, thank you yet again
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Old 03-22-2013, 07:52 PM
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No problem; hang in there.
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Old 03-22-2013, 09:19 PM
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I am sorry Anya, take care and please keep in touch but please do remember that a triad is not the only form of poly and just because this form of poly didn't work out for you doesn't preclude you from having other forms of polyamorous relationships in the future.
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