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Old 03-13-2013, 02:57 PM
purpleboots purpleboots is offline
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Hi again, so I posted a couple months ago about a meeting with my partner G's fwb, H, with whom I had also had a sexual relationship at one time. Since then, the relationship has progressed into a full blown triad and she is basically living with us. I know, I know, it was probably not a good idea to move so fast. When H first started staying over every night, all three of us were having sex often, she and G were having individual sex and she and I were as well. Since then, things have progressed to the point where threesomes are no longer happening, she and I haven't had sex in two weeks, G and I have had sex a couple times and I feel inadequate and boring compared to her, and like he'd rather be having sex with her, which he has acknowledged he would. They are caught up in crazy NRE right now, and I feel left behind and rejected. I know my envy/jealousy isn't rational, I'm trying to work through it but its HARD. Harder still that H is still quite seductive with me but clearly would rather be with G and becomes frustrated when I am present, making it difficult for her to have sex with G without hurting my.feelings.Half the week there is only one safe bedroom as we live with 3 children (the two older.ones only half the week) so there is no space but where I am often already asleep to have sex. My son, the youngest is nearly two and demands a lot of my time. I am also pregnant and feeling pretty hormonal. I want to feel ok when they have sex and I am out of the room, taking care of the baby, the house etc... I want to be able to spend the night in the baby's bed and give them some time alone in the bedroom. When I do, I have a difficult.time sleeping and I can hear them and its very painful. I just want it to stop hurting, I know its complicated. FWIW H and I have been spending lots of time together during the day while G is at work and get along great. She is very warm and loving towards me, sometimes seductive and we are compatible friends. When G gets home she can often be very moody and I feel as though she is frustrated that she can't have him all to herself, plus all the complicated unicorny stuff of course.I know its in my hands to own and deal with how I'm feeling. I just want them to be able to have as much sex as they want without feeling bad about hurting me. I read all the jealousy literature and still nothing is helping. Insight anyone?
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