New from Michigan and Having issues
I have really enjoyed reading the posts and have received a wealth of knowledge and insight from your forum.
My wife and I of 23 years have been through it all back and forth as most couples do.
A year ago we started swinging and have had a great time. During this exploration my wife have come to realize that she is completely bisexual and actual prefers women. A few months ago she met a young girl 25 years younger that is a lesbian and they played around a little. Now this relationship has grown to more than just a sexual one.
They see each other 3 to 4 times a week text back and forth everyday and have "sleepovers"
Now I find myself setting by the wayside dealing with the anger and the jealousy of NRE ( which I just learned today). It's not the sex it's more the feeling of your not important and your feelings don't matter.
She wants us to have an open relationship now.
Which is fine but I find myself in a world of how do I start to find someone for me?
Start hanging out at the bar at 50 years old looking to pick up women?
Go online and try to find someone that will be understanding to my situation?
From the posts I have read here I have learned that we need to set some rules and understand the mutual respect that we BOTH have show each other to make this work. We need to communicate communicate communicate.
I just wanted to say HI and tell you how you have helped me understand I'm not the only one in this position.
Welcome to our forum.
Yes you have to put yourself out there, so here are some sites to consider.
I am seeing age as a possible source of anxiety and/or insecurity as you highlighted the very young age of this girl your wife is seeing. Are there other things about this girl that trouble you? Any chance you could develop a friendly platonic relationship with her?
Let us know if there's any way we can help.
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