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Old 02-24-2013, 07:07 PM
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Such problems you have... Although, you should definitely make a graph. Even I have trouble following despite the fact that I have a grasp of the people you're talking about.
I tried. I started making one, but it got too difficult, mainly because I hate defining other people's relationships. People are connected to each other in such different ways.. And is sex the defining thing? Or a romantic relationship? I heard that Gemma and Casper (who are metamours/friends) actually spend way more time with each other than neither of them do with Felix. This gets way too complicated to draw.

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It's so easy to hang out with poly people, it makes the whole concept of "stealing somebody's date" kind of absurd.
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I'm really enjoying the whole compersion thing at the moment. It makes me smile to see Mya so happy about all she's got going on. Plus, it seems the people involved are all really cool. It looks like I'll be getting a chance to meet Gemma in a week and Evan a bit later. I'm looking forward to it.
Aaw, that's really nice to hear. And yes, I'm also glad you get to meet at least Evan and Gemma soon!
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Old 02-25-2013, 03:17 PM
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Oh man, polysaturation! I've been thinking of this too. I think it's just really hard to know until you've got to the limit. And then, you'll know. The trick is to keep it manageable I guess? Good luck with yours, rory
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Old 02-25-2013, 03:31 PM
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^ I was writing a reply to your journal at the same time as you did here. I assume you meant me and not rory with the "good luck with polysaturation" thing? I think you're right that you just know when you've hit the limit, but I'm afraid to even start any kind of thing with anyone else because I don't know how much I'd be able to give. But I guess these are kinda nice problems to have after all.
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Old 02-25-2013, 03:43 PM
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Haha, whoops! Yeah, I did mean you Mya. I thought I'd got it right... let's blame that on 2.40am. No, I'm not polysaturated at all

And yup, these are kind of awesome problems to have. Can't really complain, ha.
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Old 02-25-2013, 04:02 PM
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^ Haha, not at all distracted I see! Well that happens.

I read the articles fuchka linked to her journal about polysaturation. Good food for thought. I realised something. The time and energy available depend on so much more than just relationships. Well obviously I've known this before, but I hadn't really thought about my specific situation from that point of view. My work situation varies a lot, sometimes I have my hands full of work (working overtime on evenings and weekends) and sometimes I have a whole month of doing nothing. So that has to have an impact on this. Right now I have a slow phase at work so that's what makes me think I could maybe handle a little something else. But as soon as work picks up again it might even be difficult to find time for the two partners I have now, plus hobbies and friends. Hmm, that really got me thinking that I might have reached my polysaturation point already. I need to have some room for busier times at work so that I can still keep my relationships healthy then.
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Old 02-26-2013, 02:21 AM
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Eee, just wanted to say that I'm so happy you guys had a good vacation, and so happy for you, Mya, that you're falling in with good new folks! Sounds absolutely lovely.
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Old 02-26-2013, 01:51 PM
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Thank you Annabel. Got to say that life is pretty good at the moment!

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Me and rory are going to a party this weekend. Gemma is going to be there and Casper probably as well. I'm really looking forward to it! Right after the weekend we've arranged a day for rory and Evan to meet. I'm really excited about that but somehow not nervous at all. They're both so great, and knowing their personalities and tastes I can't imagine them not getting along.

I've noticed something interesting. Although me and rory are very similar in most things, our biggest difference is the introvert/extrovert thing and our energy levels. And that happens to be something where me and Evan are very similar. Like me, he also has a lot of energy, an active social life, a lot of friends (and feels quite easy to get to know new people) and not much need for alone time. I find this interesting now that I've gotten used to rory's ways and actually on some level JJ's ways as well. I'm not sure if JJ would be classified as an extrovert or introvert, but I do know that he liked his alone time and needed it more than me. One thing I love about poly is the variety and I like noticing these differences. They're not good or bad, just observations. Interesting times.
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Old 02-26-2013, 03:17 PM
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Oo, I found a really good article about introvert polys: A Guide to Introverted Polys, Featuring Pie. Sounds very familiar!
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Old 03-04-2013, 01:14 PM
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The party was great, both me and rory had a very good time! Rory met Gemma and Casper, everyone got along really well. Casper is adorable. I had almost forgotten about that because I hadn't seen him in a while, but now the feeling came back and I have to admit that I still am crushing on him a little. I'm quite sure he's not feeling the same, so I'll just enjoy his company when I happen to see him and that's it.

There's this guy I've met a few times before in meetups and parties and always thought he's nice and attractive. Actually the first time I met him was the first time I also met Casper, so a few months ago now. Back then I thought that both of them were really interesting but I didn't want to contact both of them at the same time after the meetup, so I ended up just contacting Casper. Now this guy was at the party as well. Let's call him Hank. He was also at the last party I wrote about. He told me that at some point last time he was looking for me and then noticed that I was in a pile of people and didn't want to disturb. Okay, so last time I only talked to him briefly, but this time I got some more time to get to know him. I told him that at the last party I made out with a bunch of people and he said he hasn't made out with anyone in quite a while now. I told him that he should just ask someone if he wants to make out with them. I had mentioned to rory earlier in the evening that I think he's interesting, so after that comment rory looked at me in a certain way and kinda coughed loudly. So after that I asked Hank if he wanted to make out, and he did. Yay for encouraging girlfriends! Then rory started bossing us around and made us kiss some more and told him he should touch my boobs. She was being very dom-y, it was interesting and kinda hot. Hank seemed a little confused at first, but went for it. Me and Hank ended up making out quite a lot during the evening and rory seemed to enjoy looking at us. At one point I was kissing Hank and rory was kissing my neck, that felt amazing! My life is just too good to be true. At some point he had to go to sleep and we exchanged phone numbers to hopefully see each other again. He doesn't live in Dream City though, so it'll probably be a while until that happens. We'll see. Anyway, life is good.

And today rory and Evan are both coming to my place to meet each other! I'm so very excited!
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Old 03-04-2013, 03:26 PM
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Oo, I found a really good article about introvert polys: A Guide to Introverted Polys, Featuring Pie. Sounds very familiar!
This link doesn't work, fyi. I googled for it and the all the links to that article seem not to work. Weird.
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