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Old 02-27-2013, 04:34 AM
Opensteve Opensteve is offline
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Default Melbourne, Australia - poly couple saying hi

Hi all. Steve and Lareesa just saying hi to all the community. We gave been living the lifestyle for 10 years. Mainly good, but sometimes the 3rd parties can't deal with your poly marriage.
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Old 02-27-2013, 04:31 PM
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Hmm, just noticed something in this thread...
Originally Posted by raquel1962 View Post
new to poly lifestyle . . .
Originally Posted by thinkinboutpoly View Post
Hi my husband and i are new to the lifestyle.
Originally Posted by Tise View Post
"X" introduced me to the Poly lifestyle . . .
Originally Posted by Keeke View Post
. . . still trying to understand the dynamics of the poly lifestyle . . .
Originally Posted by NewPerspective View Post
I'm very new to the poly amorous lifestyle.
Originally Posted by LeeALadybug View Post
Just joined this site and am new to the polyamorous lifestyle.
Originally Posted by derobi74 View Post
I finally decided to try and reach out to others living that lifestyle . . .
Originally Posted by jmk View Post
we need to find someone who is understanding of the lifestyle . . .
Originally Posted by Malfunktions View Post
. . . I have always been interested in the poly lifestyle . . .
Originally Posted by bigkellyna View Post
. . . my passion for the lifestyle is far greater . . .
Originally Posted by Opensteve View Post
. . . been living the lifestyle for 10 years.
I know if I go back further than just the last two pages, I will find more such references. So, maybe you will all find this thread illuminating:

What is this "lifestyle" you mention?

Hope this helps!
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Old 03-06-2013, 08:52 PM
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I'll go by Sorsha for now. I'm 39, i've been married for almost 20 years to my honey. We met in college. We got married very young (do the math) and had our kids young. When we met he was much more skilled than I was. I am a preachers daughter. I dated a lot but was a virgin when we met, talk about opening my eyes! Needless to say i'm still a little shy when it comes to sexual things. He has a much more voracious appetite than I do. I recently graduated with my teaching degree but as most people know the education system is in the tank right now so i'm working in retail hell and trying to make the best of it. Hubby is in IT.

We have a very good marriage, ups and downs, highs and lows but overall very strong. We talk constantly and make time for each others needs and make sure that we do things separately as well as together. Our marriage is based on humor and communication.

A few years ago hubby was talking to a woman via on online game. I had talked to her too and thought nothing of it. The joke in our marriage is that he needed a gf so he'd leave me alone! I don't know how the subject of me talking to her husband came up but one day I started talking to him, we hit it off and things just went from there. THey lived over 6 hours away so it was long distance but for 9 months we made it work as best we could. I fell hard for my boyfriend and he for me. Unfortunately things didn't work out oh my husbands side, there wasn't the communication and connection that needed to be there so things unraveled. I said i'd never do it again but as time passed hubby and I talked about how we missed the connection and the excitement that the other couple gave us.

Ok enough rambling. I consider myself straight but I did fool around with the woman in our relationship. I felt it was very natural and comfortable and I enjoyed it. I don't want to label myself any further than that. Hubby is straight but we did enjoy time as a foursome and had a great time.

Thats me in a nutshell

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Old 03-07-2013, 06:31 AM
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Hello..just a quick intro
I am donna and 53 and single. i have been interested in the polyamory life for a few years but havent really pursued it. i have several friends who are of this inclination and I enjoy the friendship.
I do a lot of world traveling for womens health care and will be moving to india in June for a year. I am in alabama right now.
I am looking forward to more conversations about this and figure out if this is a path i can pursue.

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Old 03-17-2013, 04:07 AM
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Default Newish to Poly in NM

I've had a lot of fun reading through the forum notes, especially when I realized how many are based in NM, where I hail from.

Background, I realized a number of years ago, that 1 man, 1 woman, wasn't what I was looking for, but the relationship I was in at the time, didn't have the security to accept a more open status.

Now, I'm single, and have been for quite a while. Long enough to sit down and figure out what I want at least .

I'm a single mom so I'll admit straight up that I'm suspicious, and a little crazy protective about my kids. At the same time, I would love to have strong male influences in my children's life to show them it's possible and yes, good men exist.

Shockingly enough in this day and age, I've never had a female encounter, and have never wanted one. I am strictly dickly as they say, and perfectly ok with that.

I am hopefully going to find a relationship with 2 men, preferably 2 men either in a relationship or 2 men who are friends well enough to be able to share a relationship with a singular woman. They can be either straight or bi, I'm not going to be picky on that, just that they're a pair.

So cheers to all in the hopes of finding happiness with what they are looking for themselves.
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Old 04-22-2013, 02:34 AM
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I'm S (33), been married to N (34) for almost.5 years. I've been poly since a teen and had a somewhat open relationship with my first husband (J)of 11 years (he wanted a polyfi triad, I did not. I wanted to each date separate. We ad a v for awhile, he bring the hinge but it almost destroyed our marriage as he was not respecting my boundaries. We got back together after over a year and we had casual relationships with others.

When I got with N I made it clear what I wanted and we had some boundaries. No dating people from work and he had to get approval before sleeping with someone. We had a ton of fun mostly casual fwb stuff. We attempted a quad but they weren't the right couple. N is seeing multiple women right now, I'm not seeing anyone though. I date both men and women but haven't met anyone in a long time that I liked and I haven't been in the mood lol N had a triad relationship for a short time with his ex gf before they before they broke things off to move out of state. He knew after that he wasn't interested in a nono relationship.

Some things about me: I breastfeed, cloth diaper, had 2 unassisted homebirths, homeschool, we live a pretty frugal and low impact life. I'm starting school this Summer to get a social work degree. N is passionate about politics, art, comics, and RPGs. Basically were a couple of crunchy geeks lol. We are also both atheists and vegetarian. I'm originally from OR and N is from Chicago

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Old 04-27-2013, 12:53 AM
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Default I'm Leelee

Hi, I'm Leelee. Single (divorced) Canadian female in my early 40s. Joined this site just the day before I broke up with BF who was in an open relationship, but I wouldn't describe that relationship as a poly relationship. His GF and I never met, she didn't want to meet me, and she forbade him from having a relationship with me beyond sex. So, there was no "amory" in that poly, so to speak.

But anyway, that relationship got me thinking about poly relationships in general. I was married for a long time to a man who had many affairs, and I found that all the lying he did really eroded my feelings for him. The end result is that I accept that monogamy is not a happy state for many people... and since I'm not a very jealous person, i think I could accept a partner who has other partners, but not a partner whose whole life is a lie. Ethical non-monogamy really appeals to me. I personally tend to be monogamous in my relationships, but I could see myself as one of the arms of a FMF vee, as long as the male was willing to genuinely invest emotional energy in both relationships.

I have also found I'm attracted to masculine/top-type bisexual men... so I could see myself someday in a MMF type vee relationship.

Anyway, very new to this and just learning. Nice to meet you.
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Old 04-30-2013, 03:13 AM
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hi, im jamie. im 30 and live in the deep south (usa). my parter el and i are just getting our feet wet with this poly thing with a wonderful friend that is becoming something more than that.

we have identified ourselves as 'intellectually poly' for some years, but have never wanted to act on it just to say we did... but that 'right' person has finally come into our lives!

we are in the process of figuring life out with three adults, two houses, five kids between us and a sudden need to retreat back into the closet.
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Old 05-03-2013, 04:05 PM
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Smile New to the site, not to polyamory

First off, the cliff notes... bi/poly/kinky... not terribly geeky... quasi-geeky? Maybe?

I've been openly polyamorous for five years now, almost six, with a slight leaning toward Relational Anarchy. However, I don't currently have any romantic partners.

I'm gender fluid and bi, though I tend to be attracted to masculinity regardless of biological sex. I'm a mother, an 80's nostalgia geek, animal welfare advocate, and mystic, though I take an Ignostic stance during theological debate... not the same as Agnostic.

I help out some friends with their small jewelry and craft boutique in downtown Ellicott City from time to time. It's something I enjoy doing and it brings in a little extra cash.

I love animals, sometimes more than people, lol. I've been training dogs for seventeen years now. I am a certified veterinary assistant. I also do my own grooming. I have one dog (Simon), an amelanistic corn snake (Lucius), and a banded California king snake (Regulus).
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Old 05-05-2013, 08:11 PM
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Default Hi!

I'm RiverRose, otherwise known as Kim. My husband and I live in Wales in the UK, and we have a little boy of 7 months. We've known each other for 9 years, and been married for 2 and a half of those years. We were at university when we met. Being both a bit geeky we bonded over such things as Lord of the Rings (book and film) and Star Trek/Star Wars.

We were always mono until now. Until this year I was not even aware that such a thing as polyamory even existed. I thought that I would be with just one person forever. Then in the latter half of 2011, I developed a crush on a friend. I find it hard to be anything but honest, and so I found myself confessing this crush to first my husband and then the man in question. They both instantly assumed that I was confessing because I wanted to cheat with this man. I absolutely did not intend for any such thing to happen, I just tend to wear my heart on my sleeve in matters of romantic love.

I hoped that this crush would just fade, but to my horror it started to deepen. Eventually I opened up to my husband about it. Then I had an epiphany and realised that you can love more than one person, and that it's not wrong to do so as long as you are honest and take into account everyone's feelings on the matter. When I discovered the existence of polyamory I stopped feeling guilty, and accepted that I am just a very emotional person who has a lot of love to give. Sadly the man I have feelings for will never consider me as he thinks I am ugly. Besides he appears to be mono, and has a girlfriend now. I shouldn't really be so sad because as a person he comes across as rather selfish and thoughtless. I get the feeling that he thinks I'm silly, and he has tended to brush my efforts at friendship aside. I even made similar efforts towards his girlfriend to show him that I didn't resent her, but she brushed them aside too (don't think she knows about the crush).

Recently, my husband and I joined a site to search for people to have experiences with. However, it's rather sex based. Not really appropriate when it's the emotional connections (both romantic and platonic) that I'm really searching for. My husband is Aspergers, and so he has trouble understanding my need for connections with other people. He is very supportive though, and is happy for us to explore polyamory and see if it suits us.

Anyway, nice to meet you all!

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