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Old 02-23-2013, 06:43 PM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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My husband goes through bouts of depression (not precisely the same as grief, I know) and it is still difficult for me to discern how to "help" him - especially because when he is feeling that way HE doesn't know what would help.

The tack I take now - I ask him if I have done something to upset him or if there is something that we need to talk about. If no, I ask him if there is anything that he needs/wants from me - physical presence, listening ear, soothing food or music. If no, I leave him alone and work on keeping myself happy (if his sad makes me sad then he feels sadder).

Sometimes doing nothing IS doing something.

JaneQ
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Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (together 21+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (together 3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ


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