reconnecting primary after another partner? :(

[learninginTN]

After re-reading your thread, it seems as if the hurt your husband caused is the bigger issue with your reluctance to be intimate than the NRE issue. That kind of broken trust hurt runs deep, and can take a long time to heal. Therapy helps. Are you and hubby pursuing MC? It can be an enormous help, and sometimes becomes essential. A good therapist can help with the communication and keep things moving forward in a positive, loving atmosphere.