Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
Really? See I used to think that but when I brought up that distinction elsewhere I was told that I was wrong to make that distinction.
I think when people attempt to make the distinctions mutually exclusive then there are problems. I've heard lots of people say that if someone is swinging, they're not poly. I honestly wouldn't know, because a swinging relationship isn't the same thing as poly relationship, so one doesn't inform the other.
There are poly people who swing and also have loving multiple relationships. If a poly person is also a swinger, I'm not going to assume that swinging defines their or my polyamory. It defines their swinging.
All of these can overlap and exist side by side without this idea of one "tainting" the other.