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Old 01-21-2013, 06:51 PM
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all it took was 5 seconds on google to find one.
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.
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Old 01-21-2013, 07:28 PM
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There are lots of things your boyfriend can do. Meditation is very helpful for clearing the mind and ridding yourself of anxieties and lonliness. Hobbies, movies, books. He can join a gym, take dance classes (and then teach you what he's learned), cooking classes (and then make great food for the both of you). Just be creative. It mostly depends on his personality. It sounds like he just needs to get himself out there and get busy. If he's uncomfortable with English, then doing something that requires minimal language skills, like martial arts, might be helpful (and stress relieving). Sounds like you guys have a great relationship - wish you all the best!
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Old 01-22-2013, 01:25 AM
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Going without a persons company for ONE day out of each week should not be traumatic for a fully functional adult. He should definitely read some poly material so that he can figure out if he is interested in adjusting his worldview to a degree that would make your arrangement work.

If he doesn't drive, doesn't have friends, has nothing whatsoever to do with his time... he should fix that...

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Does he have suggestions to offer for solving this himself when you talk to him? Or is he laying it all on you to solve?
Word. It's nice to look out for your partner, help and guide them whenever you can. However, there's a difference between being a good friend and coddling someone who is putting forward no effort to work through their own issues. I don't know that this is the issue here, but it bears considering.
Me: male, 43, straight, non-hierarchical, independent
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