Not sure how to feel
How did you handle the first time your spouse told you they were in love with another person? We've been married three years and together for nine. No kids. Started exploring open relationships and polyamory because of BDSM. She wanted to be able to be physical with other people in her play. Now she believes her orientation is polyamorous. The guy she's with is really nice, but has not told his wife that he is in love with my wife. So many things going through my head. She basically has said accept her for all this or leave. I do love her and want to keep my marriage. I don't want to be dramatic about it, but I just don't know how to feel. My mantra so far is just let her do what she wants and if it comes down to me not wanting this lifestyle then I'll be honest with her. So confusing...