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Old 01-16-2013, 08:41 PM
lilyankh lilyankh is offline
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Default How can I get myself hot for my 1st lover when all my body wants is my new lover?

Main Issue: I've been with my husband for 5 years, I love him and can't live without him. No one knows me better. But his self esteem has been low and our sex life has been on and off and boring for at least a year. No matter what he does I just don't get wet any more for him. We have to use lube all the time. 9 months ago I met my boyfriend. It became sexual about 6 months ago. The sex is HOT...and FUN...
So the other week my husband unintentionally (or not) overheard my boyfriend make me come several times in one session. This was devastating to my husband's self esteem because he rarely makes me come. So in light of this he has declared that he has given up trying to spice things up and that if I have an idea we can try it. ... I am cool with that.
More Details: I am the more creative and the dominate one in the relationship anyways. He relys on me for every thing else (food, home stuff, social calendar stuff). But I can't seem to block out my boyfriend in my head to reconnect with my husband. Sexually all I can think about is my boyfriend....When I think about my husband I think sweet, kind, patient, best friend etc...but none of that makes me wet.
The one thing that worked once was I roll played as his dom...that got me very hot...but while he doesn't mind that he is not good at role playing and once we started fucking it was the same boring style and my mind wandered again. Plus I need to learn more about being a dom...because i don't think I was very good at it. (I'm talking about a dom for an hour of sex, not full time)
Question: How can I get my self hot for my husband when all mind wants sexually is my boyfriend?
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