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Old 01-10-2013, 12:26 AM
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Thanks, Diabolika!

So miss pixi and I went to see Les Mis a couple days later than planned since she also got the flu. But we made it and it was great!

2 nights before NYE we got 6" of snow here, but on NYE eve, we went to see a band of a friend of hers, at an Irish pub, in Somerville (in near Boston). It was singer/songwriter night and her friend's band was on first, so after she played, she joined us and her wife and we sat thru the next 2 bands, drank and ate and chatted. Fun! There was a bit less snow in Somerville and we found a parking space no problem.

Our money woes are somewhat lessening, hence going out to a pub for once! miss pixi got on SSDI (disability payments) and is picking up a work from home, part time, but well paying website design job or 2.

NYE we were still in Lowell and had Ginger over for a cozy night in, dinner, cocktails, tons of sex, blues music playing, then we poured hot fudge sauce on Ginger, sprayed on some whipped cream here and there, and dipped fruit in it, along with champagne to drink as midnight fell and 2013 began. Then we watched Kathy Griffin being extremely naughty with Anderson Cooper on CNN... it was so sexual and gay! Totally suited our moods.

So since then, last weekend I did a photo shoot of miss pixi for fun, partly negligee and partly fashion. Last Sunday was my 1 year anniversary with Ginger but he had to take his son back to college that day, so we are getting together tomorrow for a museum date, since our first date was a museum. He says he's not usually the holiday type, but every time he thinks of us hitting the one year mark, he gets a big smile.

He wants to do a photoshoot of ME on my new sheets. I found some brand new flannel leopard sheets at the thrift store. Rawr.
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Old 01-15-2013, 06:17 PM
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So many changes in the week since I posted. miss p and I have known for a while that moving in together would save us a shit ton of money, rent, gas back and forth, not to mention the hassle of one of us packing up every week to visit the other. But I didn't want to move in with her *just* to save money. She had a lot of health and anxiety issues that caused me to feel tension around her. Her lack of confidence also impacted her sex drive which I have found moderately to extremely frustrating.

Also, she had 2 large dogs and in a city apartment, that's more added action, barking, dog food, neediness, etc., that I didnt enjoy.

Well, one of her dogs died late last summer and while it was sad, it does add to the tranquility factor. Not to mention half the expense in dog food.

miss p's confidence in the past year has really grown and somehow the past several months her sex drive just keeps increasing. I hardly dared to trust it but we talked about it and it seems to be a true development for her, not just a fluke. Whew!

Both our current leases are up soon, mine in April, hers in July, and we'd just started talking about getting a place a bit south of Boston together, and closer to Ginger.

Well, what do you think? Her... bf? ex-bf? ex-Master? M, is just about to close on a very large house with his gf. They are both busy professionals and not domestic at all. They never had a falling out, but just found it difficult to get together because of transportation issues. M offered miss p a full time, live in housekeeper position! She would get free room and board and a floor of the house to herself. He totally respects miss p's relationship with me and while I wouldn't live there, I would be welcome at any time. Also miss p could set her own job description, and is free to decorate the entire house with her own extra furniture and collectibles.

This offer has really throw us for a loop! She'd be able to save even more money this way, yes. But, I still want to move. I am tired of my 3rd floor apt in Lowell, and want a first floor with a bit more nature around it, and it would be lovely to be closer to Ginger. Would that arrangement bring me closer to Ginger and bring miss p closer to M? Yes. Our dynamic would change a lot... even if she doesn't really forge a satisfying sexual relationship with M, she would become much more involved with him and his gf and the large circle of kink friends they will be often if not constantly hosting.

Food for thought! Eek!
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Old 01-16-2013, 02:24 AM
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Just to clarify: you are thinking of moving south of Boston to be closer to everyone, but you would NOT move into the housekeeper apartment with Miss Pixi?

Whatever, sounds like fun! Love the blog, by the way.
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Old 01-16-2013, 02:58 AM
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This is all in a state of flux. We are looking at the best way to feel good emotionally as well as save/make the most money.

Now it is looking like we'd save a bit more by miss p and me moving in together, somewhere closer to Ginger, rather than me get a place alone and her stay with M and LC.

The savings in rent by moving in together might exceed her free room and board at M's, plus the gas I'd need to go visit her on weekends as I do now. And I am tired of driving to see her every weekend if it's no longer necessary. It took me a while to consider the moving in together plunge, for various reasons, one of which is having come from a 30 year relationship and enjoying space.
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Old 01-16-2013, 10:39 AM
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She should definitely get a full understanding of what the housekeeper position entails, in exchange for the room and board. They might expect her to be on duty more hours than is reasonable or something like that. I know she was a sub to him, and so she probably wouldn't mind that too much, but when your living space hinges upon that sort of thing, I would be very cautious. You would have to be certain that it is treated as a real, professional agreement without personal issues/expectations getting in the way and potentially putting her in the position of having to move out if bad feelings arise. I think it could get sticky.

I agree that it sounds like a better situation if you and she move in together, closer to Ginger. Maybe you can find a place big enough to each have your own private spaces.
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Old 02-03-2013, 02:51 PM
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From another thread

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I really recommend this article to you:
http://davidlnoble.com/so-somebody-c...nicorn-hunter/

It's very long, but well worth the read.
I read it. It is long but the bullet points at the end sum it all up nicely. God, I hate unicorn hunters. I get so pissed at our Personals forum here. All these damn smug couples looking to "add a third" like she is a commodity! A sexbot.

I was just burnt by a couple, together for a year, who had had a unicorn for 8 of those months. She broke up with them at xmas. So, the guy contacted me on okc, saying they were now dating separately. I really didn't think we were right for each other but he was adamant, persistent, and cute and seemed very cool. Also, Ginger realized he was friends of friends of this guy's gf, so I said, I'd meet him.

We had a lovely date. He bought me lunch in Cambridge, then we walked around... and he asked to hold hands, kissed me a little, cuddled a lot, we ended with coffee in a little park. He was charming and interesting and interested. He walked me to my bus, kissed me, asked me to add him on FB, all that.

And then no word for 2 weeks.

I had explained my position to him before I met him. He said, we can kiss and cuddle if we want, but no sex til you meet my gf. Which seemed rather presumptuous of him but whatever. I said, when he asked if I was interested in his gf, I do not date couples, but who knows? If he and I become a thing, and I meet the gf and like her, she and I might end up friends or lovers, you never know. After all, that happened with miss pixi and Ginger here.

So after 2 weeks I messaged him on okc, just "Hey [his name]." No answer. I saw he'd been on okc the day of my message too! So, a day or 2 later, I msged him on FB with a few more words, like, "How are you doing? I messaged you on okc and no answer, what's up?"

Finally, he wrote me back on okc. Saying he and the gf are back to only dating as a couple! And he didn't say sorry for not bothering to tell me until I friggin messaged him twice. So, I wrote saying that was rude and I was hurt, and he then wrote back saying he apologized.

Grrrrr! Did I mention I hate unicorn hunters? The irony of all this is, his gf is a "life coach" and teaches classes and writes books about relationships and dating! Yet, they are both fine with treating me like a ... thing.
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Old 02-11-2013, 01:19 AM
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Hey Magdlyn,

Urg, sorry that happened to you. blech. I hope that article gets around and helps at least some clueless hunters get a clue.

Hope you got through the blizzard safely.

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Old 02-11-2013, 01:30 AM
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Hey Magdlyn,

Urg, sorry that happened to you. blech. I hope that article gets around and helps at least some clueless hunters get a clue.

Hope you got through the blizzard safely.

I sent a link to the article to both my date and his gf. Hope they get a clue. Maybe they think I am real uppity and won't read it...

I made it safely thru Nemo except for a sore shoulder from shoveling-- thanks for the well wishes!
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Old 03-21-2013, 03:47 PM
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House hunting has been going on since I gave my notice with my landlord the beginning of March. It's hard! Places are getting snapped up out from under us right and left.

Yesterday we toured one with our agent that does NOT already have an offer on it. Fingers crossed! It's 10 mins from Ginger's home.

Send us some luck!
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Old 03-22-2013, 02:54 AM
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Luck! House hunting can really be a hunt, eh, teeth bared and blood rushing. One of my partners recently found a new apartment, finally, after an increasingly panicked search as the date to move out of their current place approached. What a relief. Fingers crossed for you
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