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Old 01-03-2013, 06:44 PM
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So I sold the watch, and found out it was a fake. If he knew, that pissed me off a little. I feel like he was trying to impress me, which I don't need. If he knew, which I'm not sure about, or even had an idea that it was a fake, then he tried to give me something that John never could. Not that I would allow John to spend that kind of money. If it was real, it would have been around a grand and now that I think about it, I know he didn't have that kind of money, so he had to know it was a fake. Damn it he could have bought me a Fossil. It would have mental as much and not looked like he was trying to impress me and it wouldn't have made me uncomfortable.
I have no idea what to do now. I don't want to tell him I sold it, but I do kinda want to confront him in his intentions. Or maybe we just need to break up. Something isn't right that's for sure. Either he's lying about what he wants from me, or he's very messed up, or something.
I just don't know!
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Old 01-03-2013, 07:11 PM
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I've also got to have money for my mom to come out and help with the baby in April. And she wants to stop twice for hotel rooms instead of driving half way, so it will take her 3 days to get out here and $600 of my money. Twice.
Gas, food and hotels for 6 days of driving is likely more expensive than one round trip plane ticket. Watch for deals and other airports! An airport an hour or two away, is still going to be less hassle than 6 days of driving. Around here any thing over an 8 hour drive (to a major city) is cheaper by plane if it's only one person and that doesn't require a hotel stay. I think you said your husband was military, check with family services and see what they might be able to offer in the way of help.
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Old 01-03-2013, 07:40 PM
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Gas, food and hotels for 6 days of driving is likely more expensive than one round trip plane ticket. Watch for deals and other airports! An airport an hour or two away, is still going to be less hassle than 6 days of driving. Around here any thing over an 8 hour drive (to a major city) is cheaper by plane if it's only one person and that doesn't require a hotel stay. I think you said your husband was military, check with family services and see what they might be able to offer in the way of help.
yeah, I know. She will be bringing my son and she instists on driving. Its really annoying to me, since Im sure she will get her and not want to drive around bc she hates traffic. It is cheaper for her to drive, since our son will be with her most likely, but its still annoying that she wont take a bus!
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Old 01-08-2013, 06:37 AM
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I don't know what to do. my counselor said I'm taking advantage of R. I don't want to do that, he says I'm not, but now I have it in my head that I have.

I'm holding back tears, I'm at work, I can't cry. Not over this.

We are talking about it now, but I know these kinds of conversations are hard on him.
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Old 01-08-2013, 07:01 PM
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I don't know what to do. my counselor said I'm taking advantage of R. I don't want to do that, he says I'm not, but now I have it in my head that I have.

I'm holding back tears, I'm at work, I can't cry. Not over this.
OK, your counselor called you on something you didn't realize you were doing and didn't intend to do or truly may not be doing. Step back, look at your situation. Ask your self, "Is it balanced?" Have there been times, where he has been the one taking more than he might be giving? Some people work in cycles. If you think you could make changes, do it.

It happens to all of us, it will be OK.
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Old 01-09-2013, 08:46 AM
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R and I talked, we are in limbo land.. not together but not apart either. We have never really needed labels though and I think he's happier that way.

We are doing everything I want with us as a couple, we just aren't officially together.

On a side note, John is starting his own blog, so now everyone gets to see both sides of the story
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Old 01-09-2013, 09:09 AM
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So yeah I started my blog I think this makes Jen happy, honestly the hardest thing I have ever done.
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Old 01-12-2013, 06:10 AM
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You're the two that I want
You're the two that I want
Some girls'll settle for just one
They don't know what they're missin' they ain't havin' any fun
You're the two that I want

Jane told Betty she saw me last night
She had her socks shocked off but she was tryin' to be polite
We were arm in arm in arm and that just didn't seem right
I was walkin' with my babies in my high heel shoes
Havin' so much fun I nearly lost my blues
You're the two that I want

He's a big strong boy he can bust out of chains
Says what he means he don't play no games
But you what you're missin' in muscle you make up for in brains
Between you two I got my two hands full
I got one to push and another one to pull
Two that I want

I can't believe this is happenin' to me
I'm just about as happy as a girl can be
With all this lovin' I feel wild and free
Maybe I should press my luck and try for three
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Old 01-12-2013, 10:01 AM
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We are members of the local UU community and moderately active in the UU Pagan group (they are working on becoming a CUPPS)
Thanks to this site, I discovered the UU has a poly group.
I decided I'm going to start a chapter here.... wish me luck!
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Old 02-20-2013, 07:09 PM
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So I think things with V are nearing their end, he hasnt contacted me in a week and a half, minus a "happy V-day" text. I'm giving him until Saturday, if he can't hold up his end of the "once a week" deal then I'm not getting my needs met and I've tried to voice them already, so it will be time to end things.

R and I are doing good, talking about once a week like we promised, and he's working things out on his end. I'm happy about that and we are planning to move to a place where he can live with us this fall.

I'm seeing a guy casually, he and his wife are poly. I see him about once a week right now, but I'd like it to be more honestly. I can do with once a week if its quality time, but occasionally it has been with John. He is busy, but he tries to make time for me and he is genuine and fun and WOAH NRE??!!??!!
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