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Old 12-27-2012, 09:36 PM
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Something big happened today! I finally told my dad and his wife about rory. So basically came out of the bi and poly closets at the same time. I've been so worried about especially my dad's reaction that I've been creating this wall between us when I haven't been able to talk about this big thing in my life. So I did it. And it went well, way better than I expected! They didn't seem shocked at all. I got a good opportunity to say it, too. We were visiting my grandmother and she knows about my divorce. She asked if I have someone new already. She's old and very judgemental (she commented negatively on my piercings and vegetarianism and also asked whether my roommates are black, or to be frank she actually used the n-word). So when she asked, I tried not to answer the question at all and changed the subject. When me, my dad and his wife got in to the car, we talked about how rude she can be sometimes and I mentioned that they proably noticed me having a hard time with the someone new question and they admitted they'd noticed. That's when I started: "Actually, I do have someone. I have a girlfriend." Dad's wife: "That's fine, there's nothing wrong with that." Dad: "We're not as old-fashioned as your grandmother, you can tell us things like that." Then they asked a few questions about rory and I answered. Then I continued: "And actually that's not all. You know I'm kind of a hippie? I've extended it to my love life as well. We're in an open relationship, and me and JJ had that as well. I was with them both at the same time and she has a husband, too. We all know about each other, are fine with it and even spend time together frequently." I don't remember exactly what they said to that, but something positive as well, like it's my life and whatever makes me happy. At one point my dad's wife said: "All this doesn't change who you are inside and how much we care about you."

I am sooo relieved and happy!! It's been such a burdain and now it's finally lifted and it went that well! I can't believe it. I feel like I'm dreaming.

Happy. <3
Me: bi woman in my 30's
My partner: Marco
My metamour: Paige

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