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Old 12-09-2012, 09:11 PM
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Speaking entirely candidly and with all due respect, if I were 57 and catching the attention of someone who was 22 and ostensibly looking for someone far younger than I the answer to that question would be FUCK YES!
You're joking, right? I get hit on by guys in their 20s all the time. However, perhaps you don't know that Michigan is, ohhh about a thousand miles away from me.


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I've gotten my share of freaks too; I got a message from a woman who, after some conversation, revealed that she was physically unable to achieve orgasm unless she was struck in the face. And I dont mean like a little slap, I mean full on closed-fist punch.
Well, that's a BDSM fetish. I'm a bit of a "freak" myself. Altho I wouldnt want facial bruising... bruises elsewhere are nice souvenirs of pinches and bites and spanks for me!
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Old 12-09-2012, 11:19 PM
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You're joking, right? I get hit on by guys in their 20s all the time. However, perhaps you don't know that Michigan is, ohhh about a thousand miles away from me.
This may be the overly-hormonal male in me but I have to admit to no small amount of curiosity to see your OkCupid profile.

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Well, that's a BDSM fetish. I'm a bit of a "freak" myself. Altho I wouldnt want facial bruising... bruises elsewhere are nice souvenirs of pinches and bites and spanks for me!
I think that's stepping into paraphilia territory. I'm not averse to bruises (I seem to be one of the only people alive that finds hickeys sexy) but a full on right hook to the jaw as a REQUIREMENT for orgasm, even when its just you, something is very wrong in that situation,

"Freak" was an unkind and perhaps too hasty characterization.
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Old 12-10-2012, 01:38 PM
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Speaking entirely candidly and with all due respect, if I were 57 and catching the attention of someone who was 22 and ostensibly looking for someone far younger than I the answer to that question would be FUCK YES!
I also really hope you're joking. This statement makes it sound like 50-something women should be desperate. I am in my 50s, too, and I get messages from guys in their 20s a lot as well, but most of the ones who contact me do not interest me in the least, so I'm not about to respond just because they're in their fucking 20s. Geez.
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Old 12-10-2012, 02:27 PM
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I also really hope you're joking. This statement makes it sound like 50-something women should be desperate. I am in my 50s, too, and I get messages from guys in their 20s a lot as well, but most of the ones who contact me do not interest me in the least, so I'm not about to respond just because they're in their fucking 20s. Geez.
Not at all. Simply that we tend to have certain age brackets that are "acceptable" to date within, socially speaking, and few people will venture outside that. If you find someone willing to, in a legal way, then that should be a positive thing.
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Old 12-10-2012, 07:38 PM
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. . . we tend to have certain age brackets that are "acceptable" to date within, socially speaking, and few people will venture outside that. If you find someone willing to, in a legal way, then that should be a positive thing.
The age is neither positive nor negative, and shouldn't be the reason someone says, "Fuck yes!" We still have to assess whether or not the guy is an asshole, didn't bother reading our profiles, wrote an intelligent note, etc. The 20-something guy who wrote Mags clearly wasn't paying attention if he's in Michigan and she's in Massachusetts, AND his profile says he only wants women up to age 27. Sounds like a moron to me.
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Old 12-10-2012, 07:49 PM
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Ahhh, people lie on okc all the time. Lots of young men seem curious to date an older woman, but don't come out and say that on their profiles, so they don't scare away the young women they might actually be able to breed with.

Also men lie about being straight. Seems most guys I have dated have themselves listed as straight, but are actually bi.

Me, I am not afraid to be honest about just what a freak I am! I've got nothing to hide.

So, no, I am not going to reply to a kid from Michigan 700 miles away just because he wrote me one line. I've got a cute little 35 year old female partner and a handsome horny 60 year old male partner, both of whom I love deeply and vice versa. A third lover would have to be very special, and very local.

My okc profile is "Magdlyn," just like here. Feel free to look.
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Old 12-11-2012, 10:08 PM
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This, from a guy, no picture, no profile, allegedly 38 from NYC, hasn't answered any Qs.

"hello, first before you delete humor me. you do seem quite vivacious. Im sure others have said that often on here. Sorry to add to your inbox. If you ignore the barrier we will vibe. or you can add me toyour book of boring dates. Where can I email my picture? Again, I know I may not be in your range yet you seem too lovely not to write"

I replied:

"Not only do you not have a picture, you have no profile. I may be vivacious and lovely, but what have you got to offer?"

All he had in return?

"I'm open to you hah where can I sent my picture"

sigh...

Next one:

"My name is X... i am new on here i came across your profile and it really attracted me, i will be very happy to know more about you. "

Umm, my profile is quite thorough, why don't you tell me about what in it attracts you in the first place? Sheesh.
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Old 12-12-2012, 12:35 AM
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To discourage people from sending me too many sexual messages, I have no pictures on my profile and clearly state in multiple places that I'm only interested in friendship.

Despite that, the only message I ever received (only one, so at least the trick is effective) was: "Wanna have sex?"

I can only guess that the guy sent it randomly to everyone he could.
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On Friday morning, I received this message on OKC:
just wanted to say hi, let me know if your interested
Ugh, I absolutely cannot stand it when someone does not use capitalization or punctuation, and doesn't know the difference between your and you're. BUT, he's an 83% match, so I thought I'd reply to see how he responds:
Well, you'd have to pique my interest first! How would I know if I'm interested with just a "hi?"
He wrote back:
I thought you might review my profile, i would think if you didn't like that, then you wouldn't respond. But you did, so maybe you are interested? Too deep for me. lol
happy friday, hope to hear from you again
Okay, so knowing how to carry on a conversation is too deep? I replied:
I haven't checked out your profile yet. I need to be enticed to do so...

How about telling me what struck you about my profile and prompted you to write? I'd like to know that you actually read the thing. And tell me something about yourself. I need something to go on!
I didn't hear back from him.

So, yesterday, I decided to actually check out his profile and I found these gems:
What I’m doing with my life
i don't know, why am i on here? First priority is finding a good woman, intelligent, healthy and attractive....Well it doesn't hurt to dream.

I’m really good at
Running, laughing, talking about almost anything
He's good at laughing... okey dokey. Claims to be good at "talking about almost anything," yet he doesn't know how to engage in a conversation! Hmm.

Three of his "six things I could never do without" are
females, there's always something beautiful about each one
fantasies
love/sex, hopefully together


Then...
On a typical Friday night I am
trying to avoid the Friday night traffic, we can find something to do at home.
Woo-fucking-hoo. What a fun guy.
And:
You should message me if
if you read this far...especially if your interested in developing a serious monogamous relationship...please no long interviews, let's just meet for a cup of coffee. one more thing, if your really into money, or have a lot of it, i don't! lol
So, I wrote him again:
Hi again ___ - I visited your profile and see you are looking for a "serious monogamous relationship." Obviously you did not read my profile before contacting me, as I am not into exclusivity. So, we would not be compatible.

Good luck in your search!
Almost immediately, I get a reply which makes him sound so desperate:
HI, I THOUGHT IT WAS INTERESTING WHAT YOU WROTE, I WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW I'M RECONSIDERING THE MONOGAMY THING BECAUSE OF OKCUPID. NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THAT, BUT THERES A LOT OF UN TO BE HAD ON HARE, MAYBE I SHOULDN'T TRY TO BE SO SERIOU. DOES THAT MAKE ANY SENSE? OOPS, ALL CAPS, NO TIME TO REWRITE..TTYL
Loser.
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Old 12-13-2012, 02:27 AM
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"A LOT OF UN TO BE HAD ON HARE"

Gross.
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