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Old 12-05-2012, 07:42 AM
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Originally Posted by persephone View Post
. Yet, he was perfectly willing to toss aside our relationship the second his wife, a person who clearly has a lot of mental instability, threw a tantrum. He didn't make the slightest attempt to calm her down or go to bat for the relationship he and I had built for almost two years, he just caved, and started to look forward to his next sexual partner. That is not love. That is a guy who had a friendship with benefits and called it love. So yes, I feel that I wasted my time there, not to mention my heart, because I did love him, and it was clearly misplaced.

I did learn a few valuable things from this, so not a total loss, I guess.
It is indeed a shitty feeling, when you realize somebody has this 'box of love' they have pre-built, and it's interchangeable for whatever person comes along. It leaves you feeling as though every word uttered was false.

Be pissed off. Bitch, moan, and don`t think you can be friends with him. Not yet, anyhow. It is a process of coming to terms with these kinds of things. Hopefully it doesn`t take terribly long, but usually,...it does indeed take time.

....and definitely take the lessons. Time is not wasted, anytime we learn more about ourselves, or those around us.
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