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Old 12-21-2009, 09:44 PM
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I recently looked at PolyMatchMaker and a few others, and I came to the realization that in the world of polyonline matchmaking a married man looking for a female companion is like being a jackass in a unicorn safari, as it seems unicorns are all that is being sought after on those sites.

Anyone have any suggestions?
Yeah, the poly-specific sites seem to be lacking in some key fashions.

The best poly-friendly dating site still seems to be OKCupid. I can't say it's a cure-all for poly folk seeking. I can say it has a good number of poly and poly-friendly folk on it. I've encountered a couple of women who weren't poly, yet were interested in some involvement with me had they lived closer, plus there are the currently poly folk on the site who may be interested.

As for the unicorn hunters--that seems to be very common when folks decide they want to try polyamory on for size. That could be why experienced poly folk shy away from the sites, however.
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Old 12-25-2009, 10:34 PM
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This may not work for you.

BUT-

for me, "us",

if someone isn't good enough to be able to socialize with our children-they sure as HELL aren't good enough to be in a relationship with either/any of us....


THAT frees up time A LOT.

OF COURSE we aren't having sex in front of the kids-but we do have dates including taking them to the park-where we get to spend time being our REAL selves (mom/dad/uncle) while out with our "prospectives"....

If we can't do things with the kids-we don't include them in our circle...
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Old 12-26-2009, 03:41 AM
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Seriously, I want to thank you.

I went onto OKC a few minutes after you suggested it, not long after I posted my profile, I found myself in a wonderful conversation with a married, new to polyamory woman within the area. Both of us are dealing with some of the same issues, though her husband isn't already in a tight close relationship with someone, but... very similar.

We talked on the phone today, and have coffee plans for the end of the weekend. I'm pretty stoked about how it all kind of just fell together like that.

LovingRadiance:

We're really careful about whom we let meet our daughter, even social acquaintances, and really my wife wants to be out of the house when she's with her friend.

Perhaps further down the road we will be there, but we're not there now.
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Old 12-26-2009, 04:31 AM
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We're really careful about whom we let meet our daughter, even social acquaintances, and really my wife wants to be out of the house when she's with her friend.

Perhaps further down the road we will be there, but we're not there now.
I understand. We're very careful about who meets our kids as well-in fact they are homeschooled. We're pretty anal retentive. We're just THAT anal retentive about who we date as well and that really does simplify the time issue.

But everyone does things differently-and I get that as well.

My bf and I have been GOOD friends for 16 years before he became my boyfriend. We're just REALLY picky.

Anyway-congrats on the good luck with OKC.
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