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Old 11-14-2012, 06:21 AM
Baz Baz is offline
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Default Relationship decline

I met my boyfriend at work and we started out with a purely physical connection which developed over time. For the first year, we both slept with others because we did not love each other and were not exclusive in any sense. Eventually we put on all the "labels" but he said that he has never been monogamous in 28 years of life and wasn't ready to do it now. So as I fell in love with him and lost the desire for others, I had to deal with the heartache of his indiscretions. For the most part, I dealt with it fairly well. If I had met anyone I was sexually attracted to, I may have pursued, but I was content with him. Then over time, the sex between us dwindled. Eventually, in the end, we'd go 4-8 weeks without sleeping with each other. The time we spent together reduced, we didn't stay at each others houses much. He didn't think this was an issue as we spent "40 hours together at work every week."

Now I'm just angry. One of the things that forums like these told me was that some times a polygamous relationship can result in a closeness between you and your partner. For me, I just became the girl he had a "strong emotional connection with" but "wasn't sexually attracted to any more because he prefers new people and he knows my body too well"

I know this isn't dissimilar to a monogamous relationship disintegrating, but was wondering if this happened to anyone else?
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