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Old 11-05-2012, 05:37 PM
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Oh my word, no. It doesn't sound like he's insecure - it sounds like he just wants to be in control. Why shouldn't you flirt with anyone you want to? Geez, IF HE IS A FRIEND, he needs to stop trying to boss you around. Ick!

I am really curious about what happened when he suddenly told you that he thought you were dating while you thought you were just friends. What prompted that? How did you feel and why are you being so loyal and submissive to him just because of that announcement? Why couldn't you have said, "Oh, I didn't think we were dating. I like things the way they were, and I am interested in dating other people, so I would rather you and I just remain friends." But because HE SAYS you are dating, you go along with it and then are afraid of upsetting him and his other girlfriend? Huh?

Where is your agency in this? It sounds like you need to learn how to take charge of things in your life.
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