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Old 11-04-2012, 06:52 AM
Kat1 Kat1 is offline
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Unhappy New and need help...

So, my fiance decided he wants to be poly and I am okay with that. I have made it clear that he can have other relationships but boundaries need to be set until I feel more comfortable and get used to it. I came into the relationship thinking it would just be me and him and only recently had he brought this up. He wants a guy partner and a toy partner and I said okay to that. I asked him if I happened to find a girl partner that I had interest in, would I be able to pursue a relationship with her, he said it was okay and then asked if I wanted a triad. I knew it wasn't a good idea because 3 way relationships are harder to build. He hasn't let me really explain this. Then tonight, he got in contact with an old friend that was FWB with him and said he still has feelings for her, of course this hurt me because I haven't had enough time to really process him wanting to be poly and find out that he likes another girl. I asked him if really did want me in case he was hinting at the idea of breaking up and going to her and he easily said no, that he wants both of us but he will always love me more and doesn't want to lose me. After calming down, I suggested that I sleep on it and get back to him tomorrow about it so I'm calm and had time to settle down. I realize that you can't help having feelings for someone but he keeps saying he's confused because he wants to be poly but doesn't want to hurt me or lose me even though I gave him permission to be. Long story short, I'm confused because he's confused. Help
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