Coming into Polyamory as a non-primary partner
Has anyone done this?
I've been single for quite a while, and having met and chatted with polly people, I've gradually become very fond of the idea. All the people I've talked to already had primary partners though, and I always thought it felt a little one-sided if I become a secondary partner, and I'm not sure if I'd feel jelous or stuff if I was to do anything with them.
Recently I've become close to one person currently seeing someone who I presume to be his primary. I'm really fond of him, he has an awesome personality, and we became physically intimate. The chemistry isn't there at the moment, but I'm worried if it were to I would feel jelous of the primary being more important.
So... is this an issue etc. Sorry I'm reeally knew to poly so pardon my ignorance.