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Old 10-26-2012, 09:48 PM
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I really have only one real experience to go by ... but it was a little over a year. Although it was a LDR for the last half, so I don't know if the NRE period would have been shorter or longer if we had remained in close contact.
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Old 10-27-2012, 04:12 AM
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1-2 years for me.
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Old 10-27-2012, 05:01 AM
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About a year for me?

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Old 10-27-2012, 07:52 AM
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I'd have to concur with the year to year and a half estimates.

It seems we have a trend peeking its head through the water.

I wonder if that's biologically based; nine months gestation time for a new baby plus a few months of the male being around to ensure the mother and offspring are protected while the child is at its most vulnerable?
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Old 10-29-2012, 02:06 AM
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Have you done a search yet? There are a number of threads discussing people's experiences with NRE. Here are a few to start you off:

How long does NRE last?

New Relationship Energy

Hoe long does NRE last in a long distance relationship?

New Relationship Energy NRE and how it forms our relationships

Hope this is helpful!
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Old 10-29-2012, 02:09 AM
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Thank you, NYCindie!
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Old 10-29-2012, 03:31 AM
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18 months with 10 weeks off (3 months in) for fixing my primary relationship. SOOOO glad to get back to my "normal" self - I hate NRE.

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Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (6+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
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Old 10-29-2012, 04:24 AM
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Thank you.

I guess part of why I'm wondering is that I wonder if he'll suddenly wake up one day and wonder what he saw in me. He's made some major life changes (things I didn't ask for) because he doesn't want to cause me discomfort, because he wants this relationship to be as good for me as it is for him. I think I worry that he'll suddenly wonder what came over him and think it wasn't worth changing for, that maybe he'll even resent me, even though I didn't ask him to do these things.
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Old 10-29-2012, 06:04 AM
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Hmmm. When does it stop being NRE/NRC and start being ORE?

I would agree that the OMG I WANT YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW wore off about a year or so in for every relationship I have ever had.
But, with my two current loves (15 & 20 yrs) I experience the giggly, touchy feely OMG YOU ARE SO AMAZING sensations regularly and my hormones create a NRE-like cascade of sexual craziness every month for aboit ten days when I would HAPPILY accost both of them day in and day out.
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Old 11-23-2012, 10:29 PM
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Default Pregaming NRE or in other words, "Managing NRE Stupidness"

I tried searching on this, but the search engine isn't too friendly.

I'm seeking advice on how to manage NRE so that you don't hurt your established partner(s), but you can still enjoy the ride. What are some major failures on the part of the affected NRE person? What are ways to lessen the situation for those who aren't the focus of your NRE?

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