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Old 10-14-2012, 02:00 PM
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It's a useful filter question. I do sometimes wonder what the people who answer "yes" are thinking.
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Old 10-15-2012, 02:56 PM
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Well, in this day and age, some people "require" their lovers to have shaved pubes, even, so...
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Old 10-17-2012, 01:51 PM
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It's a useful filter question. I do sometimes wonder what the people who answer "yes" are thinking.
can you search for specific questions? I haven't managed to find out how.

I've been getting at least 6 messages over the past couple of weeks of single guys, looking for their 'soul mate - someone to settle down with'.

Why would someone write that to a woman who states she's poly in the first sentence of the first paragraph of her profile? and then not mention the poly part in your message to me?

Also, I say in my profile not to contact me if you're living in another country, because I'm not looking for pen pals - even for friendships / non-romantic conections, I like to have the option of meeting someone in person. I'm in Europe, and last week, I got messages from Florida, Brazil, Italy (5 countries south of where I am) en Seattle.

So far, I've always to tried to reply to everyone who says more than 'hi how r u' in a first message, but I'm getting tired of typing out thoughtful responses to guys who can't read....
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Old 10-17-2012, 06:00 PM
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I've found it entertaining to ask if they've read my profile as a response sometimes.
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Old 10-18-2012, 06:00 AM
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It's a useful filter question. I do sometimes wonder what the people who answer "yes" are thinking.
As much as I disagree with them, it's surprising how many people would not even consider considering dating a woman who didn't shave her legs.

My husband and I got into this early in our relationship. He's very anti-hairy-women, and I'm a total hippie at heart. He wouldn't go down on me unless I was hair-free, because he hated getting the hairs stuck in his mouth. At first I was totally indignant about it, but it does have a logical basis. I don't like getting hairs stuck in my mouth, either, and it does rather ruin the mood when someone involuntarily gags on your privates...

But he's not stupid enough to try and "require" me to shave. He just set his own personal boundary: "I don't perform cunnilingus on hairy twats." (I'm putting words in his mouth, he was much more politically correct. I just like the word "twat.") It's my own choice whether to remove the hair, or forego that activity with him.

Hairy legs make him feel like he's in bed with a man. As much as I think that's just plain dumb, telling him how to feel about hairy legs would be just as inappropriate as him telling me I have to shave.

What does amuse me is that once I started removing the hair, I began to really like the look and feel of it, both legs/pits, as well as pubic. Oh, I still have an above-average tolerance for hairiness... but I no longer feel like I'm failing the women's movement by getting sugared once in a while.
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Old 10-18-2012, 09:29 AM
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can you search for specific questions? I haven't managed to find out how.
I just scan through "Unacceptable Answers".
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Old 10-22-2012, 07:16 AM
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Too bad I've deleted most of mine.

However, the two that I remember were:

"You are very attractive. I would like to have the sex with you."
At least they were upfront...?

I receive very few messages but they tend to be short and less than creative. I have to say it gets frustrating when someone responds ONCE then just dumps the conversation.
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Old 10-22-2012, 03:24 PM
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I got a one the other day that said "I'm looking forward to get to know you, please respond".

That was it. No message as to why I should want to get to know him in the first place. We had a very low match as well, so, really, what was he thinking of?
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Old 10-22-2012, 04:15 PM
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Not a message, but one of the questions and how I responded. (I just joined.)

Have you ever tried any sexual roleplaying, such as student/teacher or patient/nurse?

Yes, on occasion. I have to be in the mood.

Explain your answer: I tried it once, but it didn't work out too well. The character sheets got all disorganized and crumpled, and I got a d20 stuck up my ass.
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Old 10-22-2012, 10:55 PM
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That wouldn't make any sense to me if I came across your explanation while reading someone's questions.
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