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Old 09-05-2012, 06:59 PM
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Does that explain the disproportionate number of members from the Pacific North-West, or from England?

(I just totally made that up, btw!)
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Old 09-12-2012, 11:57 AM
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The only other one was:

"hey whats up? you seem like a cool guy. so you are only looking for open relationships? bummer"

Is it standard practice to tell people "bummer" when you read something in their profile you don't like?
You have to turn it around on them:
"Ugh, you only do monogamy?!? BUMMER!"

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Old 09-12-2012, 05:05 PM
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You have to turn it around on them:
"Ugh, you only do monogamy?!? BUMMER!"

Love it!
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Old 09-21-2012, 12:09 PM
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Since Ginger has been so sick with Lyme, I've been kind of at loose ends and have gone back to browsing OKC a bit. One guy contacted me this week. He's 28 (that's OK, even though I am 57 I am fine with younger guys).

So, he seems like an intelligent, literate, engineer type. It's obvious he has read my profile as he comments on it and asks me questions pertaining to it. Big plus and I tell him so. We PM back and forth a few times.

Last night he asked me for my phone number so he can hear my voice. Hmmm... So I take a closer look at his profile and Q&As. His profile says he is looking for women aged 23-30, and his Q&As indicate he is not interested in dating someone who is already in an open relationship!

What to do? He's not acting like a horndog who just wants to be with an experienced older woman for hot sex. We haven't even talked about sex. So confusing.
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Old 09-21-2012, 01:39 PM
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Perhaps just ask for clarification since you read his profile? It is possible that (like many on OKC) they can end up being interested in someone outside their stated range of qualities. I've talk to a guy or two whose profile said he wasn't interested in an open relationship, but then when I talked to them about it they said they didn't care.

It also may be the case that he wasn't paying attention and it might be good to air it out just to make sure he knows.
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Old 09-22-2012, 03:20 PM
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"Hey whats going on?

I'm <Name Redacted>, I just graduated from RIT with an Engineering Degree. I am looking for someone open minded and cool. This might sound different but I like women's feet and would like to give you a foot massage haha. If your cool with that we should talk more."


I kind of wanted to reply that he should try his luck on Fetlife.
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Old 09-22-2012, 03:44 PM
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I kind of wanted to reply that he should try his luck on Fetlife.
... and spellcheck.
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Old 09-22-2012, 03:59 PM
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yeah.
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Old 09-23-2012, 04:09 AM
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Got this one today: "you into/ up for a gang bang?"
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Old 09-23-2012, 09:20 PM
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^ Oh for crying out loud.

But on the other hand, I still say OKC is tame compared to what I often find on some of the gay men's sites. (I know...no surprise there!)

Today, a man almost two decades older than me asked me if he could be my "daddy".
I replied "how do you know you're not?? Let's run a test on Maury!"


Interestingly enough, he logged out quickly after that.
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