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Old 09-20-2012, 02:56 PM
BlazenBurn BlazenBurn is offline
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Default Stoip Copying Me. Be your own person!

I have been in a new relationship for about five months now. The issue I am having is my partner's SO has begun to imitate me. It's almost like she is trying to be me. We are completely different women, in dress, behavior, tastes. She is more of a down-to-earth person, I'm more flamboyent. However, soon after she actually met me, she dyed her hair my color. Then she started changing the way she dresses to emulate me. Gone were the birkinstocks and now she is in high heels. Gone were the grannie panties and she bought thongs like me. She used to have her own food preferences, now she orders like I do.

I understand that imitation is a form of flattery but this is driving me nuts! I feel like yelling at her "stop copying me". My SO is delighted because he confided in me once that he wished she were more like me and encourages her to dress and act like me. I don't think this is a good thing. I think it's causes her to be insecure in who she is.

I am going to talk to SO about his part in this but I don't know if I should say anything to her. Any suggestions?
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