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Old 09-12-2012, 04:26 PM
Austtia Austtia is offline
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Smile Hey from Montana

We're a married couple in what I suppose is a V relationship right now. I'm bi (woman) and the men are straight. I think we're all interested in expanding this to another woman if we could ever find the right fit.

Anyway, we're pretty new in our relationship and are keeping it under wraps. We don't want anyone to know about us yet, at least not for quite some time. Is is common to stay "in the closet", or are most polys public about their relationships?
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Old 09-12-2012, 07:30 PM
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We're a married couple in what I suppose is a V relationship right now. I'm bi (woman) and the men are straight. I think we're all interested in expanding this to another woman if we could ever find the right fit.

Anyway, we're pretty new in our relationship and are keeping it under wraps. We don't want anyone to know about us yet, at least not for quite some time. Is is common to stay "in the closet", or are most polys public about their relationships?
I, too, am a bisexual poly female in an MFM vee with my husband and boyfriend (who are both straight). We all live together. We are "open-but-not-looking" when it comes to adding another female to the mix. I guess I envision that one of us may happen to meet a woman who "clicks" with one of us - if she would happen to click with any of the others so much the better (but by no means a requirement).

Due to my profession we are mostly "in the closet" and will be for the forseeable future (at least until I retire) - our friends know, our families do not (although I suspect they suspect), my coworkers do not. Everyone knows that Dude lives with us but he is introduced as "our roommate" or "our friend" depending on the situation. We do all go out together as friends - but we are circumspect about PDA between Dude and myself when we are out locally.

We are leaving today for a 5 day mini-vacation but I would be happy to talk more when we get back.

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MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (21+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ


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Old 09-14-2012, 03:44 PM
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Wow, pretty familiar situation. I'd love to chat more when you return.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:28 AM
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We're back from our little vacation. Sunburns were obtained, fish were caught, fires were tended, the dogs barked at squirrels (and people and dogs)...and the family (mine) asked no embarrassing questions!

Feel free to contact me via responding in this thread or by PM (Private Message) - I check the forums here frequently (when I am home). You mention that your relationship is "pretty new" - how long have you been with each of your partners?

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Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
TT: poly bi male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ


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Old 09-17-2012, 04:37 AM
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Hi Austtia,
Welcome to our forum.

It is pretty common for poly people to be "in the closet" about it; perhaps it's 50/50 with about half being out to their family/friends. I'm pretty much in the closet, with my polycule (also an MFM V except we're all three straight).

I'm glad you could join us.
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