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Old 12-11-2009, 07:00 PM
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Right now my husband and I both work and my GF is going to school. The three of us have talked about it and some day I hope to be able to work only part-time and stay home with any children we have. My husband loves his work (he is a para at a school for behavior disorder students) and would get too restless if he stayed home all day (has ADD and over sleeping issues). My GF also is very indipendent and wants to work, she also wants to travel alot. We have talked about in the futor (when she comes back from Finland after finishing school) that she will find a job and contribute about 1/2 her income to our house hold and spend about 1/2 on traveling (she is studing tourism). So if all Dreams and Hopes come true some day I hope to stay home with our kids (homeschool) and work only part-time (as a home health care provider for children with special needs) while my two lovers work (full time). ::Sigh:: Time will tell
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Old 12-11-2009, 08:10 PM
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I stay home full time. Maca and GG both work full time. I have the kids-and I homeschool. They make the money and pay the bills.
Works really well when Ailsa and I don't both have major health crisises in one year.
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Old 12-12-2009, 12:33 PM
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Homeschooling by itself is a full time job.
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Old 12-13-2009, 02:03 AM
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Homeschooling by itself is a full time job.
That's true and when you have multiple children in different grades-sometimes it seems like several full time jobs.
But let me tell you-I have NEVER loved any job I was paid to do as much as I love watching the test scores come out (in Alaska even homeschool kids are required to do the standardized gov't testing for schools) and knowing that the reason all these kids scores are off the charts, is the time and work and devotion I put into making sure they got the teaching they needed.
Feels MUCH more "useful" and meaningful to me then any other job I've done (banker, loan officer, cashier, management, dancer etc).

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Old 12-13-2009, 08:05 AM
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I agree wholeheartedly!
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Old 12-20-2009, 04:15 PM
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My husband and I have a gender role reversal going on in our day-to-day life and both are really happy with that part of our lives. I've always been kind of a "guy-type girl" as I call it, and have never really wanted to cook, clean etc etc. - just go to work. I work one full time and one part time job, pay the bills, and help around the house when I can or when he's sick. My husband is a "girly guy" and always wanted to take home ec and learn to do housework when he was a young boy. Now, he does the shopping, cooking, cleaning, menu planning, etc etc etc. for our household, drives us to work and school as needed, and is also there for our high school aged daughter.
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Old 12-20-2009, 07:26 PM
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I think that part of the gender roles has largely evaporated which is an awesome thing. I know quite a few families operating in that mode. It really comes down to "what's the best configuration for all" that we can pull off. Whoever is in the position to make the most money - do it - unless you hate it. Whoever likes to cook - do it ! Win/win for everyone.

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Old 12-29-2009, 09:33 PM
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That's true and when you have multiple children in different grades-sometimes it seems like several full time jobs.
But let me tell you-I have NEVER loved any job I was paid to do as much as I love watching the test scores come out (in Alaska even homeschool kids are required to do the standardized gov't testing for schools) and knowing that the reason all these kids scores are off the charts, is the time and work and devotion I put into making sure they got the teaching they needed.
Feels MUCH more "useful" and meaningful to me then any other job I've done (banker, loan officer, cashier, management, dancer etc).

sorry but isn't at least a little bit of credit due to the children themselves for the test results? i don't mean to take away from the time, work and devotion you put in but surely they are the ones who do the learning and do the tests?

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Old 12-29-2009, 10:38 PM
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As for gender roles: Fidelio is unquestionably the Alpha Male in our pack, while I am unquestionably the Alpha Female.

As for who does what, we make those decisions based mostly on skill set. I'm the shopper. He's the plumber. I'm the computer guru. He's the mechanic. I'm the gardener. He's the winemaker.

We both clean house, because neither of us really like to. I'm the primary cook, but he makes the best meatloaf.

When an ordinary decision needs to be made, we go with whichever one of us has the stronger preference. For major decisions, we discuss it and come to consensus. When we can't reach consensus, we table the discussion and come back to it. On those very rare occassions we just can't reach a consensus, we usually go with what Fidelio wants, because he is: 1: super smart, 2: widely experienced, and 3: usually proven to be right in the long run.
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Old 12-29-2009, 10:58 PM
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I am pleased to see a lot of the old domestic gender roles are disappearing and in some cases have completely disappeared.

My mother taught me to cook and do laundry (including ironing) and sew on buttons and now I enjoy cooking, do my own laundry and can make minor repairs.

In our little group there are no kids. Two of us work, and one is currently unemployed. When together, we all pitch in to do whatever needs doing.

My parents, while they taught us not to stick to gender roles in relationships, were very much mired in them, to the point where, after my mother died just over two years back, my father could basically do nothing around the house for himself. As long as I am fit when I hit that age, I won't be having that problem, I am pleased to say....
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