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Old 12-04-2009, 11:36 PM
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Oh yeah! Next month is our 1 year anniversary....holy crap I can't believe she put up with this mono vanilla cracker for so long!
WOW! Not really-congratulations. Good job and try to enjoy the weekend AND your anniversary!!
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Old 12-07-2009, 04:24 AM
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Well I just got back from a weekend away with my chosen family and another poly family. We have gotten together with them numerous times now and I have learned a lot through interacting with them in social settings. Key things I noticed were:

- My sense of being a "third wheel" is greatly diminished
- I am much more comfortable in showing Redpepper affection in their presence
- I am also much more comfortable in allowing her son to also see affection between us.
- I am a lot less affected in discussing past events in Redpepper's life to share with our friends and reflect on to point out lessons learned


We were gone two nights; one night she slept with me and the other she slept with her Husband. The other couple's kids just seem to see us as family. They accept that Redpepper has two men in her life and we all show love and respect for each other. I feel more like family than ever

Also tonight was the first time my other sister asked me specifically how Redpepper was doing via e-mail! Again, this is a great feeling.

We had a great weekend with lots of family fun between two families that have formed a solid and wonderful bond

Peace and Love
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Happy Birthday Lilo!!!

........I love you more
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Happy Birthday Lilo!!!

........I love you more
That was so sweet Mono. We say that all the time, "I love you more." With the kids we say "I love you one" they will say "I love you two" then we'll say "I love you three" and they will say "I love you four" and then we'll end with "but I LOVE YOU MORE!"

Very sweet.

I'm glad your weekend went well. That's awesome!
Wish we could have been there.

Maca and I watched a sweet, sad movie Saturday night. I curled up onthe couch inhis lap. Then last night we watched a drama with GreenGecko and the kids. I curled up in his lap again and he rubbed my neck and shoulder.

Tomorrow we go in for the cortisone shot. Hopefully that will help. It was nice reading your updates last night.
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Oh poor LR hope that helps.

We do the same with the boy! Only after counting forever... Its followed by "I love you googleplex"... Then "I love you googleplex a million." then "I love you googleplex a million wooly mammoths" one can't get bigger than that because mammoths are REALLY big.

We also "pull a Craig." He is the friend we went to the ski hill with. He says, "I love you twice as much as you could ever say you love me." Not much more to say after that.
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Default Redpepper's Birthday :)

We had a great day of sharing and loving Almost all the family came together tonight. Redpepper and her husband's family joined us for cake after our birthday meal. I find it completely natural to just be with all of them. I had good conversations with Redepepper's family although they have always been polite and engaging.

After they left, all three of us curled up on the couch and watched "wild Hogs". It was a great way to start a future of sharing birthdays with my Life Love. I even had a moment where the idea of living together seemed possible LOL!! I do love them both and their son.

If you haven't found it, let it come to you. If you have found it...love it for all it's worth!!

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I was babysitting Redpepper's son tonight when her dad came by to drop something off for her. It was nice in that he saw his grandson happily distracted with his computer game as I washed up the dishes from supper. It's a good thing to have him see me doing the normal day to day stuff. I think these types of things will cause him to question his own possible disapproval and will get passed to Redpepper's other family.
Regardless, they are my family no matter what happens to us or those around us. We'll be connected forever

Peace and love....and even a little normalcy
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I was babysitting Redpepper's son tonight when her dad came by to drop something off for her. It was nice in that he saw his grandson happily distracted with his computer game as I washed up the dishes from supper. It's a good thing to have him see me doing the normal day to day stuff. I think these types of things will cause him to question his own possible disapproval and will get passed to Redpepper's other family.
Regardless, they are my family no matter what happens to us or those around us. We'll be connected forever

Peace and love....and even a little normalcy
Mono
We've had so many of those "odd" but not bad moments over the years. So often people are only "upset" by their lack of comprehension. Sadly they back away because of it-when in truth the key to healing their upset, is to step forward and get involved.
My family never cared one whit about the family "design" in our home. They have a "well that's just what it is" attitude. Maca's family just needed to know HE was happy-and they're fine too. But GG's family is unlikely to ever be involved. They have no contact with him now. Fortunately his other best friend was more mature and able to look past his fears and concerns, speak them respectfully and then face the answers and realities and end up on the note of "well! Thats really interesting!" and he pops in and out periodically with no sense of major discomfort.

I'm glad things are going a bit smoother for you guys Mono!! They are for us as well.
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Old 12-10-2009, 08:29 PM
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Thanks LR! Glad things are good with you too. This level of integration is totally possible if the right people come together.

Say hi to Maca for me..tell him -5 celcius and still riding...WOOHOO!!
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Thanks LR! Glad things are good with you too. This level of integration is totally possible if the right people come together.

Say hi to Maca for me..tell him -5 celcius and still riding...WOOHOO!!
He's at work-but I will let him know.
God I wish we were riding! I miss it.

What does -5 c come to in F? I get SO confused on those.

You two together or each of you at work? Just curious.


I'm going to write a longer more personal email to RP later. I've really enjoyed getting to know her on a more personal friendship level. She could be my older sister seriously!
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