You're absent in your marriage. You're using poly as a replacement for the "you" that isn't there. You think by doing this you are no longer absent. You think by doing this you are being a responsible husband. Absent is not a way of taking responsibility. You did not become poly. You stepped out of your marriage altogether. Your wife is trying to live her life in your absence. The solution is to step back in. You can still be poly, you just have to be in your marriage to do it. The experience you are calling jealousy is coming from the fact that you are watching her live her life from a place outside of her life.
This is why I need the history. To see things like this. If you look only at the poly, you can easily miss the bigger picture.
Last edited by snowmelt; 08-31-2012 at 03:24 AM.