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Old 08-05-2012, 06:17 PM
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I'm much like you in this way LR. I decided to practice letting it go and seeing what happens. Its actually been an interesting lesson in letting go of control. Who knew?! turns out people resolve stuff without me being involved. I just have to trust that they have my best interest at heart and are doing it there way. I can't say I will always stand back and just let it be, but its proved useful in ways I didn't expect. Just a thought.
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Old 08-08-2012, 11:23 PM
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so far, Maca and I've managed to figure out a few solutions for our stuff. He signed up for my blog to be emailed to him-and has actually started reading it. that alone creates a lot more undersatnding for him of what is going on in/with me.

I'm hoping it will also eventually result in us TALKING about some of it-because I still feel very much out of touch with who HE is and what HE is feeling/thinking etc.

But-one step at a time.

As for resolving the other; she's out of town for a month-and he's out of town for 2 weeks. So I don't expect that's going anywhere in the meantime.
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Old 08-08-2012, 11:40 PM
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I still feel very much out of touch with who HE is and what HE is feeling/thinking etc.
God this sounds familiar!

Me: He won't give me his opinion on the stuff I try to talk to him about , I feel so disconnected.

Him: We had sex this morning, our marriage is great.
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Old 08-09-2012, 12:43 AM
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exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 08-09-2012, 11:18 PM
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Connection .....disconnection ...feelings ...relationships all good and valid topics but people really want the critical review on the thermal break down of the new lube of choice. .

Everyone understand there's only been a few pina colada-days since the switch but early test results can be encouraging and helpful to the rest of us. Talk about being the hero of the summer party circuit. . Tip to swingers and kinksters ..... Hey ... A must have at my next cock sucking party
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What's the viscosity of the product your using? Can you get it in multi weights or different weights. I was thinking I'd like something really thick 10 w 50 ......or 90 weight gear lube . Hey ...I'm always good for a question or three .....
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Old 08-09-2012, 11:53 PM
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Default Pina Coladas for D - #1000 YAY!

Time to put the serious stuff aside as we celebrate DH's post #1000 with a round of Pina Colada's for all!

D - your commemorative barrel of 10W50 Coconut Milk is enroute for the next party.

I sent my RSVP!
Hope you got it!!

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Old 08-10-2012, 12:56 AM
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Time to put the serious stuff aside as we celebrate DH's post #1000 with a round of Pina Colada's for all!
Congrats DH! A 1000 more questions and ellipsis... !
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Old 08-10-2012, 05:08 AM
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LMAO! D, you are so much fun.

The lube party is going great. Coconut oil is a GODSEND and frankly-we ALL LOVE IT!!

PINA COLADA PARTY COMMENCE!!!!

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(side note of little importance-my 20 year old showed up unexpectedly today and helped me get the boards I needed for the deck (14 were 2x6x16 & 13 were 2x6x8).
Then the 12 & 5 year old helped paint the big wooden spools (4 of them).
GG is helping me unload the lumber and screw it on where it belongs on the deck.
Great productive day.
Maca worked and then went fishing (he's on the out of town job), yesterday they got halibut, today salmon and he's saving it to bring home! YUMMY!)
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Old 08-13-2012, 10:13 PM
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Sigh. Things were going pretty well-even with him out of town.

Yesterday I sent him a pic (of me). I had been berry picking with the WHOLE family (kids, GG, brother, sil, their son, my sister, mom). I was SOAKED.

ANyway, a few letters of my shirt were showing through the vest I was wearing.
The shirt says, "i love my boyfriend".

He got tweaked and things went to hell in a handbasket. He opted that moment to bring up the kid he's interested in and ask if he could meet up with her the 23rd. (I really don't give a shit-the sooner the better, they need to address the b.s. that's been drug out over the last SIX MONTHS of avoiding it).

But-it was odd timing-since she and he are both gone at the moment.

He decided he didn't want to fight-took a sleeping pill (8pm) and went to bed. I was furious.

I find it ASININE to get pissy over my shirt (first of all). It's the equivalent of saying, " I don't love THAT part of you".
I find it insulting to boot.

I also find it highly irresponsible to bring up a "difficult topic" and then shut down communication immediately thereafter.

WTF?!

YOU brought it up-then YOU need to have the conversation.

I wasn't being a bitch. I didn't say no. (actually I checked the calendar and said it was fine).

HE said SHE had asked if they could meet. So I did comment that I thought it was better sooner than later-because shit needed sorted out.
He took offense at that.

I don't even know what to say.

I lost my cool after he blew me off and went to sleep. Told him fuck her, fuck his job and fuck working out of town.

I'm so frustrated.
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Old 08-14-2012, 11:02 PM
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Yep, I said it. Yes I thought it. Yes I meant it. Still do.
This sort of fucked up shit is precisely the sort of shit that steams my vegetables.
What a fucking bitch!

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What I understand is that after 18 months together and the actuality that there nothing is wrong with this woman, a Veto is out of the question. There is no good reason why my husband should be forbidden from dating this woman. I`m not comfortable with it, no. But even I realize that asking him to stop seeing her is unrealistic. That`s why I`m trying other tactics, so that he ends up believing that he made this choice of his own free will.

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I think I can count how many times I've said anything like this on this board.
So be forewarned-this isn't my normal M.O.

YOU are a first class manipulative cunt.
How dare you even consider the label poly-when you don't even love your husband or yourself?

You want to manipulate and control him like the psycho stepmother in Cinderella.

I hope he finds out what a first class bitch he's married and moves on to be with someone who loves and respects him as a person.

Unbelievable.
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