Hello! I've been lurking for a while and wanted to introduce myself. My dear husband and I have been married for 8 years, and become poly 5 years ago. I was very lucky that our transition was pretty smooth. We heard some gossip that friends of ours were swingers, and that was the launching pad for discussions (and some dirty talk) about being intimate with other people. It turns out that the other couple are not swingers (which I learned after propositioning them), but the result of the discussions was that we both feel ok with one another engaging physically and emotionally with other people. DH has yet to take advantage of this, mostly because he is shy and works tons of hours, but I have had a couple BFs over the years.
So far, poly has brought nothing but good fruit into our lives. We share everything with one another, and I know I can trust him because, well, he has permission! Plus, being able to be honest about who I am has opened my own sexual floodgates. I harbored a lot of guilt over my fantasies of other men. Now I realize that they are normal and healthy.
Anyhoo, nice to meet everyone