Polyamory.com Forum  

Go Back   Polyamory.com Forum > Polyamory > Poly Relationships Corner


Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 08-01-2012, 02:52 AM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
Senior Member
Join Date: Jun 2012
Posts: 6,271

A committed couple should be able to talk about their deeper feelings, wants, and needs without fear. It's just talk, after all, and hashing things out is what partnership is all about. That one partner's need for discussion on a difficult topic could threaten a marriage speaks more loudly about his level of commitment than hers.
I have to agree. Just talking about hard subjects should not implode a marriage.

Courious -- how are you faring? Was it a case of emotional flooding causing him to shut down and wig out initially? (I'm kinda hoping so for you sake.) Is he calmer and more willing to discuss with intent/rationale? Or things really done?

I feel your pain and wanted to send sympathies. You did a brave thing, exposing yourself to vulnerable. And you did it honestly and ethically and non cheatery so it prob feels like a huge ding to you to come to find your partner react this way.

Even if he did not want to go there, a simple "Wow. Alright. I don't think that's my scene, hon. That's a limit on my end. But thank you for being open and honest. I guess we could talk more later about it? I need time to take it in" would have felt so much nicer than what you got. Sigh.


Reply With Quote

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

All times are GMT. The time now is 09:42 PM.