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Old 07-24-2012, 12:07 AM
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Damn, that's brutal km34. My heart kind of lurched when you said it, but I'm pleased you did.
Thanks, I think

It felt brutal, but nobody else has said it and I felt like it needed said... I hate being the harsh one, though!
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Old 07-24-2012, 02:40 AM
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. . . I just want to see one other person that I have developed a strong connection with. So if he ever finds out, which he won't, I will just tell him I just met the person. I don't know.....something like that.
Or instead of lying, just say "This is someone I'm seeing that you didn't want to know about. I wanted to tell you and do it honestly and openly, but you preferred not to know, so here we are."

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I'm really not sure why he would want me to hook up with random strangers, that could try and hurt or kill me, instead of one person that I can actually build a trusting relationship with.
ASK HIM THAT!!!!
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Old 07-24-2012, 03:09 AM
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I don't see the insult in what you've shared.

You told him how you feel and that you believe you are poly and want a more poly relationship than what you have.
I appreciate your reply, as harsh as it was.....LOL......I just wanted to clarify some things.

When I said that I was insulted, I meant that when we actually tried to sit down and talk about the letter after 2 days of silent treatement, he refused to listen. He wouldn't let me explain anything or try to see my side of things. Instead I was threatened to find another place to live, told that I was the reason that he didn't have any friends (when it's all his fault), said I was ungrateful for everything he has done to help get me sober and never said thank you (even though I have said thank you repeated times, given him cards, and publicly thanked him when I got my one year medallion), and basically said if I don't like the way things are going to be, to get out, because he doesn't need me to take care of him, because he has a $5,000,000 long term care policy that will do that.

So that's what I meant by being insulted. I took the time to write down my feelings, tried to explain and I wasn't treated with the respect that I deserved.

In response to the you just don't want to leave, because you don't want debt. There is more to it than that. Things are always more complicated than they seem.
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Old 07-24-2012, 03:10 AM
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Or instead of lying, just say "This is someone I'm seeing that you didn't want to know about. I wanted to tell you and do it honestly and openly, but you preferred not to know, so here we are."
Thanks, that's a good idea. That's what I will do if and when the time comes.
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