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Old 12-05-2009, 12:15 AM
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Imaginary I'm secretly in love with you
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:20 AM
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Communication is a two way street, and the responsibility relies with both the sender and the receiver. The sender may have to revise the expression for the sender to understand the true meaning. The receiver has to feedback to the sender to make sure they actually understand what is being said. BOTH have to be listening....and BOTH are responsible.
Wow, think I used that same basic concept in a paragraph on another thread earlier today.
I just read it on yours-and I still like it!
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:27 AM
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NO FAIR! You got here first. I wanted to be secretly in love with him!!!



I'll just hang back and be secretly in love with you both. Giggle.
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:30 AM
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SHHHHHH! Mono might hear....and then he'll be jumping all over me...and not in the good happy way that you might enjoy!

Part of that sounds vaguely familiar though...
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Do I have to fall in love with you too? (just kidding)
Now...why would you need to be kidding about that...in a poly forum?

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Imaginary-I love you. You are awesome.
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Thank you for doing a hell of a good job!!!!
I'd be lieing if I said I could get tired of hearing positive reinforcement such as this. Thank-you, thank-you...I was here all week!

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Wow, think I used that same basic concept in a paragraph on another thread earlier today.
I just read it on yours-and I still like it!
I saw that. Nicely put. I'm thinking the other thread will be a better place to carry on that particular aspect, since I don't think it is as charged as this one.
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:33 AM
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Now...why would you need to be kidding about that...in a poly forum?
giggle! Wouldn't necessarily! Actually told someone else that they need to get on here so they can fall in love with you too!

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I'd be lieing if I said I could get tired of hearing positive reinforcement such as this. Thank-you, thank-you...I was here all week!
We'll try to keep up with your need for positive reinforcement.


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I saw that. Nicely put. I'm thinking the other thread will be a better place to carry on that particular aspect, since I don't think it is as charged as this one.
Thank you, and I agree.
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:36 AM
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Shareseze?! How do you spell that anyway?
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Old 12-05-2009, 12:57 AM
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Shareseze?! How do you spell that anyway?
You and LR might be able to...I don't think Mono would...
I'm going to get in sooooo much trouble.

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giggle! Wouldn't necessarily! Actually told someone else that they need to get on here so they can fall in love with you too!
Too bad I wasn't this eloquent on dating sites...I might have a dating life to occupy my time instead of spamming this board with 10,000 character posts....I wonder if I should report myself!
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Old 12-05-2009, 01:43 AM
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ImaginaryIllusion, I agree that communication is a two way street. For some reason, not agreeing that I was the only one responsible seems to translate into putting full responsibility on the other party. So be it. Suffice to say that we disagree on what constitutes a two way street in this case. Lest people decide to start accusing me again of beating a dead horse for simply responding to the same things that people continue to bring up over and over again, please refer to my previous posts for any issues that get brought up again.

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I'm sorry that Mono feels the need to leave over this. I made no ad hominem attacks here. But even if he listed it as his opinion, I would still have to take it to task because while such reasonings might work well for him in sustaining his opinion, they unintentionally marginalize and as consequence hurt a whole lot of other people in the process and I can't stand by without trying to raise awareness of that.

I'm sure it was never Mono's intention to hurt people in such a way as it was never my intention to hurt Mono in such a way.
To everyone else. I will endeavor to do what I can to prevent such breakdowns in the future and I would certainly hope that others would do the same.

If anyone has anything else they feel I need to answer for or need to apologize for, feel free to PM me and I'd be happy to discuss it.
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that whether or not a person is poly or mono ((because some people think there really isn't any difference, if you can understand how you can love anybody in any sort of way (friend, sibling, relative, your children) in addition to your spouse = the difference between mono and poly about yourself is all in your head))

so why didn't anybody say it doesn't matter whether you are poly or mono, if you are human, it takes constantly practicing being honest with yourself, to be honest with yourself. So even if you are the one thinking about sex with others, humans have a tendency to take any book about sex with others as a threat, but typically only if it is their bf/gf/spouse that gives them the book

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Old 09-23-2013, 02:31 PM
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Personally, I don't believe it's a matter of being wired. In my belief its more a matter of social conditioning and the ability or inability to break away from the social norm.
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