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Old 03-17-2012, 02:20 AM
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About moving in together young: I was in a very adult mindset at the time, what with my mother having passed six months prior. It was circumstantial how it even came to be but when it did it worked for the most part, besides initial hiccups and adjustments.

It's understandable why people are hesitant to say "Go ahead" here though. I would've thought the same for myself had I still been a carefree well-balanced full-time college student at that point in time. Moving in and combining finances is a big deal.
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Old 03-29-2012, 02:46 PM
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Funny thing happened last Thursday after fighter practice. Loveleigh had just finished helping me out of my corset and Wendigo was struggling with getting out of his armor; there we were surrounded on all sides by people who don't know about us and she asked him if he wanted his girlfriend to help with that (meaning me). Wendigo answered the question w/o skipping a beat with something along the lines of at his age, he can dress and undress himself while i quietly shushed her. No one else seemed to notice and if they did, no one said anything.

Later that night, she e-mailed me and asked me to pass along an apology to him. She assumed that because Runic Wolf was being so open with everyone that she was his girlfriend, that everyone knew about Wendigo and I as well. When I told him this, he said that it had crossed his mind that she'd said it outloud too, but he didn't want to draw more attention to it. Neither of us are ashamed of our relationship, we just don't feel the need to broadcast it from the rooftops. Everyone who NEEDS to know, does. Those who don't may or may not, but that's up to them to figure out. If they have a problem with it, that's on them too. Our marriages aren't going anywhere.

It amazes me that we've come this far. Wendigo and I had planned to get Runic Wolf drunk and play some rock band after our battle on Sunday. Runic Wolf invited Loveleigh, which ended up with her, her husband, his new girlfriend (who is her sisters friend and one of their roommates), her sister, and 2 of her kids descending on our house while Wendigo and I were almost in too much pain to move. Still, it went better than I expected; even if Runic Wolf was tossing around poly lingo at he end of the night. It feels so weird to call them metamours when they are just people in my life that I care about.
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Old 04-14-2012, 03:49 PM
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It's been a long, but good couple of weeks and I've been very busy. Runic Wolf started a full time job two weeks ago and I have been given a second part time position where I work. So for the first time in a long time, we can breathe financially.

This adjustment has been a little hard on him and Loveleigh, since she works over nights and is usually asleep when he gets off work, but I'm sure they'll figure it out. We're going to dinner with her, her husband, and his girlfriend tonight. We went over there on Monday to help her move in their new couches and stayed for dinner. But between their being sick, and us being sick, we haven't had much quality time. I know Runic Wolf misses her.

This week, Wendigo and I spent Thursday together. We'd made plans to do some work in the workshop, and still have time to spend some quality time together like we did a couple weeks ago, but the universe threw us a curve ball in the form of Yoda's school throwing in 2 half days this week with only a days warning. We tweaked our plans slightly and when Yoda got home, we were laughing over he mislabeled pokemon in one of his books. He actually got home 20 minutes before we were expecting him, so it's a good thing we didn't languish in bed like we had the last time. We took apart all my arrows that had failed at practice and discovered why they had, fixed it, and reassembled them. Now I just need to get my sewing machine up and running again so I can make the covers.

Last night, Runic Wolf and I curled up on the couch to watch Bunraku, since I'd only caught the tail end of it the night Loveleigh slept over. It's a good movie and it was nice to have a night in with no place to be for a change. No early bedtime for work in the morning. I love that he has weekends off now. Anyways, I'd promised him dinner and a blowjob for surviving the last 17 days of work - starting one job while still working the other - and he jokingly mentioned it when I came upstairs. I don't think he realized I was serious. He's been amazing lately and I just wanted to do something nice for him. Afterwards, we curled up and went to sleep. Best night of sleep I've had in a while.

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Old 05-25-2012, 02:04 PM
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It's been a little over a month since I posted anything in my blog. Most people know from the "How're you doing thread" that Runic Wolf and Loveleigh didn't work out and that Wendigo and I have been on a break. . . . well the break is over.

Last week after fighter practice; after Runic Wolf went to bed and Wendigo was engrossed in playing Dynasty Warrior 7 he suddenly paused the game, pulled me into his arms and said he wanted to apologize to me and asked me how I wanted him to apologize and kissed me. The kiss turned into more and; well there is something to be said for absence makes the heart grow fonder. . . it makes something else grow too.
Anyways, I accepted his apology and took him home sated.

Fast forward to this week, after tomorrow, we will have spent 3 days together. Tuesday night was game and after I picked him up we spent half an hour just chatting in the car waiting for Runic Wolf to get off work. We came back here, worked on some projects until it was time for game and after game I curled up to watch them play Dynasty Warrior. They're really enjoying that time and I help out by letting one or the other of them know when the other is in need of help and keep an eye out for health pots while they are fighting. It's worked out pretty well so far.

Last night we skipped fighter practice. Wendigo is prepping our friend's shield to be plastidiped and the fumes from the DAP combined with the plastidip that our friend had attempted to use to do it himself gave me a nasty headache. I took some motrin and curled up on the couch while Wendigo cooked jambalaya for dinner. (Both of my guys are much better cooks than I am. lol.)

While the workshop aired out, we hung out on the couch. The guys playing their game while I alternated whose lap I was snuggling until after Yoda went to bed. Both of them had been teasing me on and off all night and when I got up to go to the bathroom and came back, I walked infront of Wendigo's line of sight to the TV. And he told me he loved me but I needed to stop blocking the TV. lol. Still, I sat there for a minute or two digesting that sentence. HE LOVES ME!!!! Yes, I know he loves me, but it's been a full year since I've heard those words outloud. I was practically giddy. When they tired of playing, I seduced them both. I'm such a naughty girl.

Tomorrow is build day for out realm. I'm looking forward to it. A friend of ours who thinks Runic Wolf and I bicker too much will be there. I look forward to being sickeningly sweet with him.
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Old 05-28-2012, 03:24 PM
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While build day didn't go exactly as planned, I had alot of fun just hanging out with everyone. Usually, I have to rely on Runic Wolf or Wendigo to help me make things that are outside my realm of expertise. Usually my saying that I want to learn how to make something results in Runic Wolf growing impatient with me and taking over and finishing the project. So it was nice that our friend from AOM came down for the day. I got construction tips from him and was able to finish all but the pommel of my new sword all by myself. This allowed Runic Wolf and Wendigo to focus on their own projects, which is always nice. I took breaks between layers of DAP to check on the conversation going on inside. I'm one of the few female fighters, so I spend alot of my time with the guys. It was a nice break to be able to to listen in on the party planning and sewing portion of the conversations. We're even talking about having a sewing party.

Runic Wolf was able to get his new spear built. I'm not sure I like the new spear head, it seems a bit large to me, but my job is to make a cover for it, not wield it. Wendigo felt incredibly unproductive after discovering the shoddy construction of the shield he'd been asked to fix required that he strip it of foam completely and order new foam. Still, I was grateful that we were able to get advice from those more experienced with plastidip, since the shield will be reconstructed in our workshop and not outside in someone's backyard. I know that Wendigo was especially happy to be able to throw back some Woodchuck's with our unit commander.

On top of the awesome hangouts and progress made towards projects, there were delicious burgers. And when we were full, we left to bring Yoda home and for me to get some pain pills for my aching feet. Once the car was unloaded, I took Wendigo home as we were all exhausted from our afternoon spent in the sun.

Yesterday was a lazy day. I'm not sure that I moved from the couch more than half a dozen times all day, in part due to my lovely sunburn. Today, we're being lazy, but will have to head to the store and the laundry room at some point. But at the moment, I'm enjoying family time while it thunderstorms outside.
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Old 07-03-2012, 04:17 PM
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It's been over a month since my last update. I just didn't have time for this forum last month with all the preparation we had to do before our trip to the End of the World. Ragnarok was probably the most fun I've had in a while and undoubtedly the best trip I've taken with Runic Wolf and Wendigo yet. We have a no drama policy at our camp, so while we weren't in the closet all week, we weren't making it obvious either, which meant Wendigo slept in the barraks tent (the tent where all the single guys or guys who's wives/ girlfriends couldn't make it slept). This meant that, inspite of all of the joking that the three of us had done about Wendigo and I having sex while we were away, it really wasn't possible. But with a fully stocked bar and Woodchuck on tap, we managed to flirt and play footsie here and there throughout the week.

On Monday, Runic Wolf took me browsing/ shopping in Merchant's Row. He bought me a pretty chainmail and bells anklet in my favorite colors to wear to the belly dancing show. In return, I bought him a pair of gray green woolen wingas to wear to the Men Without Pants Party, which I didn't attend so as to give him some room to make some friends w/o me. And it worked, because the next day pretty girls were coming to camp to say hi to him and walking right past the guys in our unit who he felt were most likely to have girls randomly come up to.

Tuesday was the woods battle and I lost many arrows there, but it was probably my favorite of the two woods battle days. At one point, I was reaching down to pick up arrows from behind the shield wall, when the other side pushed. Wendigo ended up falling ontop of me, in full chainmail. He was unnecessarily worried that he'd hurt me, but once we were righted, we got right back into the battle. I did jokingly mention after we'd gotten home that if he wanted to be on top of me, all he had to do was ask. And he replied, not on the battlefield, which made me laugh. Runic Wolf had a bit too much to drink, playing keep up with our Unit Leader, drinking Elder Dragonslayers that night. But he was well behaved and even put himself to bed. I checked on him periodically, but then I got suckered into belly dancing for the drummers. When your boyfriend is drumming, what's the harm in dancing for him? Oh yeah, drunk guys stepping on your ankle, that's what. At least we weren't fighting on Wednesday.

Instead, I got in a little boyfriend time. We took a walk down to the laundry room with him while Runic Wolf napped, sat outside and watched the people walk by until washers opened up. I casually mentioned that the chainmail necklace I'd traded for at the Barbarian Trading Post was irritating where he'd scratched my neck and he asked when he'd done that. We joked how Saturday night was so long ago and it felt like another world and went browsing in merchant's row while the clothes dried. At the trim tent, he pointed out trim that he thought Runic Wolf would like, which ironically, was the same trim Runic Wolf had showed me the night before. We ended up taking the man's business card because I didn't have anymore money to spend. The rest of the week passed rather quickly. We held a beautiful wine and cheese party and I was introduced to one of Wendigo's friends from college, who spent the rest of the week bringing me chocolate and other decadence, reaffirming Wendigo and I's desire to have a sin bin in our camp next year. We helped our friend's win the King of Ragnarok battle and attended their thank you party and all in all had a great evening.

Unfortunately, one of our camp mates had a girlfriend who got sloppy drunk and made a pass at Runic Wolf as he was trying to get her safely to her tent. She then told her boyfriend that she didn't remember what happened that night but felt that she'd made a mistake with someone in the unit. When Runic Wolf tried to explain what really happened, the guy went a little bonkers and ended up having to be kicked out of the camp and our unit for making false accusations among other things. Runic Wolf was pretty shaken up by the whole thing so I was glad when it was time to come home even if it meant going back to not seeing Wendigo everyday.

Since coming home, we've had a couple bits of good news though. Runic Wolf is being offered as much OT as he wants, as his company really missed him while he was gone. He is due for a raise in a couple of weeks and they think that he is promotion material as well. My parents messaged me when I got back to let me know that they are getting married in 2 weeks. So excited to be there since neither of them could make it to mine.
Wendigo's crazy sister in law and her kids are moving out this month, leaving the entire property to him and Pretty Lady. I'm happy for them, even if it means that he'll have to give up one game night with us so that he can get the property back into good shape. We have a date next Thursday while Yoda is at camp, hopefully we can make some progress on my leather corset. Things at work are looking good for me as well, though I need to get some more summer work appropriate clothing. I'm picking up more clients starting next week. The goal is to get me up to at least 20 hours a week by the end of the summer. Runic Wolf is keeping an ear out at work for when they are hiring so that he can get Wendigo into his company, which would be great.

I am looking forward to good things in the future for all of us.

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Old 07-03-2012, 04:44 PM
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[COLOR="Purple"]We have a no drama policy at our camp, so while we weren't in the closet all week, we weren't making it obvious either, which meant Wendigo slept in the barraks tent (the tent where all the single guys or guys who's wives/ girlfriends couldn't make it slept).
The "barraks" in our group, is anyone with any tent space (or even bed space as some show up with beds that literally sleep 3) and gender is completely irrelevant. Then again, most of the group would be bored out of there mind if there was a no drama rule.

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Since coming home, we've had a couple bits of good news though. Runic Wolf is being offered as much OT as he wants, as his company really missed him while he was gone. He is due for a raise in a couple of weeks and they think that he is promotion material as well.


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Wendigo's crazy sister in law and her kids are moving out this month, leaving the entire property to him and Pretty Lady. I'm happy for them, even if it means that he'll have to give up one game night with us so that he can get the property back into good shape.
Call in all the LARP friends and have a work party. The promise of pizza and beer usually brings out a good crowd.
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The "barraks" in our group, is anyone with any tent space (or even bed space as some show up with beds that literally sleep 3) and gender is completely irrelevant. Then again, most of the group would be bored out of there mind if there was a no drama rule.
We actually have an old army canvas tent for the barraks. Females are required to sleep in their own tents and the equipment tent is available to all the single guys if they want to bring a female back for sexual purposes. Couples have their own tents obviously. Our unit leader has approved of guys moving out of the barracks if they can provide their own period tent. So next year Wendigo and a long time friend of ours will be getting one. Both feel that they're getting too old for the shenanigans that go on in the barracks tent with the younger guys.

The no drama thing is really about respect. Last year we had a 19 year old come with us and he ended up trying to out drink a guy twice his age, refused to stop drinking until said older man went to bed, was hydrophobic, couldn't take basic care of himself - had to be forcibly removed from the field after getting 2nd degree sunburn because he needed to be the bigger man, etc. And then, another one of our unit members kept giving another man's wife alcohol after he'd been told to stop by her husband b/c she doesn't know her own limits. She kept asking and he kept serving.

So the rule this year was don't cause drama, don't fuck with sleeping/ passed out people, respect people's boundaries, don't fuck with people's spouses/ significant others, and no flashing (because some of us work together and are not comfortable knowing what each other look like naked.)
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. . . no flashing (because some of us work together and are not comfortable knowing what each other look like naked.)
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This actually came up because last year there was a Mardi Gras event that I went to drunk and came back to camp from plastered. Somewhere in there, I flashed the camp master. The next morning, he told me that it had made him uncomfortable because we work together and he didn't want to look at me differently in the future, so he made a camp rule so that he'd never have to see that again. Mind you, this is the man who was getting hit on by a hot chick all week, is not getting sex from his wife at home because his wife has become asexual, and stuck by his marriage vows in spite of lots of encouragement from the other guys for him to go for it.
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