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Old 06-25-2012, 06:27 AM
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Open relationships...................... This is what Aurelie told me we would have when we first got together, it's also what I have told some of my friends. It was a hot topic of conversation amongst them for a while, they soon got bored when they realised that I was not going to tell them anything apart from that.

Aurelie is terrified that people will find out. Max saw his Mum kissing Scott, and asked me why she was doing that. What we have told him is that Mummy loves Scott like she loves Daddy, but not as much. We didn't want to panic him, and we have reassured him by telling him just how much his Mum and I love each other, and that we both love him more than anything else, and that nothing is ever going to change that. He seems fine with what we told him, and he was not upset in any way. He likes Mia a lot, and is starting to warm to Scott after he took him out and spoilt him. Aurelie wanted to tell Max that he has to keep all this to himself, I disagreed strongly with this, I don't want Max to keep secrets for us. If he tells someone, so what!

My parents love Aurelie, my mother may as well just move in with us, that's how much time she spends at our house. She doesn't come to see me, she comes to see them!!!!!! She is afraid that Max will tell my parents about Scott and Mia, and I think he probably will. Aurelie fears that my parents will hate her if they know the truth. They wont. If they ask me about it, I will tell them what I told my friends, that Aurelie and I have an open relationship, and nothing else. The details are our business.
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Old 06-25-2012, 06:30 AM
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Cuckolding....................
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Cuckolding has one very specific dynamic (the husband being "forced" to watch another man "take" his wife)
This doesn't fit for me as I'm not being forced to watch anything, I want too.

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A slight twist on what Ciel said... my understanding of cuckolding is that the "husband" is forced to watch another man /take/ his wife, and not in a good way. That it's intended to wound emotionally.
Aurelie could not wound anyone, let alone anybody she loves, so this doesn't fit either. Aurelie is a beautiful person, kind and loving towards everyone she knows.

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Cuckolding is about the humiliation of watching your SO with someone who is supposed to be able to satisfy better than you are. So, a man watching his wife with a guy with a much larger penis. The point is that you are humiliated.
This is a bit closer I think. I am turned on by the fact that Aurelie is having sex with someone who is able to satisfy her better than me. I'm very turned on by Aurelie telling me that she can have 7,8,9,10 orgasms when she is with Scott, and telling me why he can give her this and I cant. It does turn me on to think of them spending their nights together doing nothing but having sex. I'm not sure why this effects me the way it does, I am not that comfortable with these feelings, most men would not feel this way, and yet I cant deny that they are there, because they are. I'm not humiliated by it though, I don't want to be humiliated, whether it be as a fantasy or in reality, and I know that Aurelie would never do that do me. She's lovely.

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He was turned on by me talking about how Scott had a bigger dick, and how he lasts longer, and how he gives me more orgasms. Why? He says that it turns him on to think of me getting that much pleasure, he also says that is why he wants to watch us. To see that!
I was turned on babe, you should admit that it turns you on as well though. I know you like teasing me in that fun way. I know you enjoy it.
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Old 06-25-2012, 06:57 AM
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I don't think it's that important to label things though. The most important thing is that Aurelie gets all the love that she needs and wants.

It is important that Scott, Mia and I make her feel as secure as we can and encourage her to ask for what she wants from us and that we all support each other.

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I've been thinking about what he said about me feeling guilty, we have been talking about it also. I do feel guilt, but I think the bigger problem I have is one of fear. I'm scared of losing Nathan! It makes me very unhappy to think of us not being together. I love him so much, and want us to be together always, and yet having a relationship with another man is not the best way to keep him, is it?
We are always going to be together baby, You and I are perfect together. Don't be such a worrier. Were having a great time aren't we.

Remember what I said about our safety nets. Yours is that you know that you are the only girl for me, I'm not interested in anyone else but you. You posted about how it would upset you to think, or see me touching anyone else the way I touch you. You don't have to worry, you know that wont happen. If at any time I'm unhappy, I promise to tell you, and we will make it right together.

My safety net is the fact that I know that in the unlikely event that I could not continue with things the way they are, you would make sure that it was just you, me and Max. I trust you and love you. I also love what we are sharing with Mia and Scott. It feels right.
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Old 06-25-2012, 07:01 AM
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It does turn me on to think of them spending their nights together doing nothing but having sex. I'm not sure why this effects me the way it does, I am not that comfortable with these feelings, most men would not feel this way, and yet I cant deny that they are there, because they are.
I actually don't think that's the case. I think there are more men who are voyeurs but since there seems to be negative thoughts associated with that form of arousal, they may not be as comfortable expressing how they feel. It's probably why I myself was taken aback when my SO informed me he'd enjoy seeing me with another man, because it's uncommon to hear in passing or personally from the average guy.
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Old 06-25-2012, 09:34 AM
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I've actually heard that from several partners... and I haven't had that many partners! I believe it's a similar feeling than watching your partner masturbate. Yes, another person is involved, but if you're not jealous it only means more things can happen. And sometimes you just feel like watching, maybe you want the option to join in, but maybe you also want the option to sit out and just enjoy.
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Old 06-26-2012, 02:31 AM
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That's interesting. That's probably how he would describe it too. He just likes watching people have sex in general (moreso in person), so I've realized that him watching me have sex would be no different.
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Old 06-26-2012, 08:28 PM
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My only suggestion is to start a new thread as you move forward, with a happier title, because this one doesn't apply anymore!
@Nathan.....I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy reading your posts. I think it's great that you give your consent to Aurelie loving, and having a sexual relationship with another man. It's even better that you seem to be doing everything you can to make her feel o.k and secure about it, but also loved and adored by yourself. It's beautiful to read. Aurelie said that it was your idea to try and integrate her two relationships, and also your idea to allow her lover to take your Son out for the day. I think that is very commendable of you, and shows that you have great self confidence.

I agree that you should not label yourself, just enjoy this tribe that you are trying to create. I think it's cute that you want to watch Aurelie with Scott, and I hope that you all enjoy it. As long as Aurelie is comfortable with it. You should not feel uncomfortable about being turned-on by the fact that Aurelie has such a great time sexually with Scott. You have a kink, that's all, most people do. It wont hurt your tribe, it will help it. I have said that Aurelies love for you shines through all her posts, and I also think your love for her and Max shines brightly through yours.

@Aurelie........ I agree with nycindies point above. I think that you have it good, and that your relationship with Nathan is a very secure, strong and loving one. Going by both of your posts, everyone in your tribe is making an effort to make sure you are feeling as loved, secure, and sexually satisfied as possible, and that is a beautiful thing.

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Old 06-27-2012, 02:07 AM
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@Aurelie........ Going by both of your posts, everyone in your tribe is making an effort to make sure you are feeling as loved, secure, and sexually satisfied as possible, and that is a beautiful thing.

Yes we are, and our beautiful girl deserves it. x
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Old 07-06-2012, 10:30 PM
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Last night we finally got around to allowing Nathan to watch myself and Scott having sex. It's something I've been putting off because I wasn't 100% sure about it.

It was awesome, and I have to admit I found it to be very erotic, and a big turn-on for me to have Nathan watching us. Scott was also very into it, I could tell.

I asked Scott not to do certain things, anything that came close to BDSM was off limits, Scott said that he would never dream of doing that stuff to me with Nathan there anyway, and he didn't, although he was his usual self otherwise. He was in no way shy about Nathan being there, in fact he seemed to up his performance. lol

I was uncertain if I would be able to relax enough to give Nathan what he wanted, but after a bit of a nervous start, Scott just got me into it, as he always does, and even though Nathan was there, we just fucked as we normally do, with the added turn-on of Nathan watching. Nathan said he wanted to see me have multiple orgasms, and I'm happy that we was relaxed enough for Scott to give them to me. We let him watch us for the night, I thought it make be awkward for the three of us while Scott and I weren't fucking, it wasn't though because I just went to Nathan and cuddled with him, and when Scott was ready again, I went back to him. Like I said, I have to admit that it was a massive thrill for me, far more than I would have ever thought it was going to be.

Nathan has said that he is still processing all the different thoughts and emotions that he is feeling as a result of this. He was very turned on last night though, and when Scott and I were done, Nathan took me home. We have never made love on the nights that I'm with Scott, last night we did, we both wanted to, and Nathan was so turned on that he got excited to quickly, this doesn't happen very often now, I still think it's so adorably cute when it does though. We waited a bit and we made love the way we do, it was really beautiful.

Everything is so good right now, and Nathan is right when he says that I have nothing to worry about. The four off us are so comfortable in each others company, it's so nice. I'm very happy, so I think I'll leave this thread here.
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Old 07-06-2012, 10:46 PM
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I definitely think the next time you post you should start your own blog Aurelie. You all have come a long way since the OP.
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